If the shoe was on the other foot, would your man be accepting of it?

modernmedusaa · 2020-04-14T14:54:41+00:00

This is why I will die rejecting men's hypocrisy...and I don't care how many fickle little hearts I break in the process or how many pickmeisha's choose to live their life differently and bend to the depravity, blatant disrespect and entitlement of men.

SO MANY men feel entitled to a faithful attractive loyal wife, whilst being granted forgiveness for cheating and disrespect even when they're below average looking and were lucky to get a shot in the first place.......a privilege they would NEVER give to a woman. They'd be out the door at the first sign of disrespect. They would not tolerate a woman cheating on them or doing half the shit they do behind her back...not without trying to physically abuse or kill her at some point.

Why are women expected to be enduring faithful little loyal good girls who always have their mans back whilst it's optional for a man and he can expect to keep getting access to that loyalty, care and honesty for decades whilst being an unfaithful, gaslighting, compulsive lying, lazy, cowardly twat ? And they're supposed to keep a smile on their face and be grateful for that? Sorry that character strength doesn't seem to correlate in my brain. How do you have a healthy relationship where one is taking the piss and expecting more than he is willing to give? But that's what a lot of men expect, to wear a woman down and make her put up with it.

Who tf gifted them that delusional entitlement and privilege? Because I live in the real world- where loyal people of substance do not want to spend time cleaning the house for a disrespectful ass man putting you at risk to STI's, pickmeisha dramas and humiliation whilst being his personal therapist and maid.

Because I was born female? Because I was born female I'm supposed to sit there looking like an idiot taking shit a man would never dream of despite women having 50 x the options of any man at any given time. Haha I don't think so. Gtfoh. This hypocrisy and male entitlement only continues to thrive if enough women play along and increasingly women are saying NO. Die mad about it LVM- this one refuses to bow to a Judas and the fake crocodile tears and 'moments of clarity and guilt' have ZERO effect on me at this point. I'm way too wise to the game & the nature of men past this point.

2020-04-14T09:38:15+00:00

I wish I'd seen this a week and a bit ago when I broke up with my ex. Men try and bamboozle you with words every fucking time but the minute they see behaviour they don't like they do the same thing we should do and leave.

PaciencaYFe · 2020-04-14T15:49:08+00:00

I mean look at all the threesome questions. Is it ever MFM?? NAH. It's always FFM and the girlfriend ALWAYS says it's so hot and is being very cool about it. I guarantee the reason she thinks it's so hot some of the time is because it's hot for her man and she lives to serve.

helena939392 · 2020-04-14T13:56:37+00:00

I was in a relationship before, where I caught my ex sexting other girls and "just looking" at Tinder. He, however, beat me up in the middle of the street at night, because we were returning from a nightclub where some strange man touched my back a little while I was on the dance floor, and I didn't punch him in the face - my ex saw this and it was too much for him. He actually thought I should have punched a random man in the face for half accidentally touching my back at a night club. Because I didn't do this, he would call me with most awful names and I deserved some beat up. He would eg. also make me delete most of my male acquaintances from social medias, although I didn't even talk to them or like their posts or photos.

So no. They are never okay with it. Sometimes you get to pay for being a gullible dumbass even with violence. And of course these guys have a vested interest when they are super jealous about anything. All they have is audacity. Nothing more to offer.

throwawaytck1001 · 2020-04-14T11:59:40+00:00

Absolutely this.

But beware of using this metric for really messed up LV guys who truly don't have any values. They have 0 standards so it's difficult to have double standards...

BabaAuRhumOhlala · 2020-04-14T15:03:37+00:00

Yeah, I’d call him out in his double standards a lot. He’d start to break down and say I’m emotionally abusive and can’t communicate because I divert his issues to myself. I’m like ¯\_(ツ)_/¯. Sure dude, sure, it was acceptable few weeks ago for you to do it, said it’s NBD and stopped talking to me when I insisted that we discuss it, but you have a mental crash if I do it. Then he’d call me abusive again and say how he wants to break up, or just stops talking to me again. 😂

Gypsymarz · 2020-04-14T16:15:16+00:00

Absolutely not! Lol! My ex loved to remind me how “insecure” I was because of my trust issues. He would wake up in the middle of the night upset over dreams he had about me “cheating”. He loved to take jabs at me and turn the tables any time I asked prying questions about odd behavior. He was so haunted by his cheating this was his new life. Nightmares and constantly living in fear I’d find out and do it back to him. Fuck him

EclecticBarbarella · 2020-04-14T18:52:43+00:00

My bestie was dating a guy who told her that he wanted an “open relationship”, but just for him. He was going to date around but she was expected to remain faithful and basically fulfill the fantasy of a wannabe rock star (there’s a reason I don’t date singers/guitarists). She actually dumped his ass over it (she had a really abusive relationship with a later-diagnosed psychopath when we were younger and it made her a really submissive pick me throughout our 20s, she had already put up with all kinds of bs from this dude) and I was SO proud that she called him out on it and walked away. She said the hypocrisy of him wanting to fuck other chicks but she was supposed to have kids and stay home and take care of them (after SEVEN years together) snapped her out of it and she’d rather be alone than put up with it. I don’t approve of open relationships to start but when they try to set it up where it’s not equal it’s even worse.

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BozzoPozzo · 2020-04-14T09:35:40+00:00

Im surprised people don’t use this logic more often.

Sewud · 2020-04-14T20:03:24+00:00

No, but we don't know. I did everything to make my ex happy so it took a while to find out he wouldn't do anything for me. There's a reveal moment where you realize this man won't lift a finger for you, and it might be years into the relationship if you haven't been asking anything out of him.

It's like I'm thinking how to be the perfect girlfriend - be faithful, be nice, give sex, don't nag, uplift him, don't do anything that's bad for him, etc. While he's thinking how he can get the most out of me. But I can't imagine that men think like that!

reveniiso · 2020-04-14T19:46:23+00:00

This is actually good tactic to use against narcissist. I was suspicious of my ex cheating on me. He’d say I’m crazy. What I did was I went on tinder and went on a date the very next day and also invited my guy friends over to my place. When the guy says you’re too sensitive. Don’t say anything and agree to it and mirror their actions exactly. When they get upset ? Tell them they’re too sensitive and ignore them.

cogitoergosum7 · 2020-04-15T04:08:45+00:00

“Don’t be stupid.” EXACTLY.

Title	If the shoe was on the other foot, would your man be accepting of it?
Author	Whateverrr_345
Upvotes	259
Comments	22
Date	April 14, 2020 7:11 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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