We have been together 2 years. We’ve been working and living together the entire time. Our lives this past year have become stressful. I was working anywhere from 67-90 hours a week. He was working about 50. We only saw each other when we worked together. It was miserable. Our sex life took a plunge. But, it seems no matter what I try to do, he never wants to have sex.

Tonight, I sat on the couch in new lingerie. He walked in after his shower, sat in the chair and proceeded to ask me about car insurance. (We’re looking to get on the same insurance). I was really hurt. He then asked me if I wanted to eat because he was about to make food. I waited a little longer and then changed. It’s been like this the entire year. I’ve tried talking to him about it but he just keeps saying “it’s not you I love you more than anything, it’s me.” So I try and I try. I’m getting no where. I know he watches porn. I keep trying to talk about it and nothing happens. I swear he thinks the only way to make a relationship work is with money. Buying things I want/need, putting my name on his new car and telling me to take it all the time, offering to pay for my schooling.

I don’t understand it. He has been an alcoholic for the last few years. He does well, then he doesn’t. The. He gets sober again and then he falls off again. I know this is a life long thing, and I absolutely knew this going into the relationship and I love him enough to keep trying. But now I’m just defeated. I’m not sure what else to do. When he was drinking, he wouldn’t want to have sex because he was embarrassed over smelling like booze. Then, when I’d work third shift, he wouldn’t want to have sex because he knew I was tired. There’s just always an excuse.

I just need some advice or words of comfort. I’m feel so low right not.

TL;DR: my bf never wants to have sex anymore.