Women, stop wasting years of your life begging and pleading with your partner to go to a doctor for his obvious issues. You are burning yourself out and it's not your responsibility.

umbralgarden · 2020-02-21T19:05:11+00:00

Men use all of the time and money they save never going to doctors dentists or therapists and never taking care of their appearance or the house in order to focus on their hobbies and careers. Then they out earn us and want to simply buy themselves the company of a healthy beautiful woman while looking like Shrek. Their interests and hobbies are deeply fleshed out because of all their leisure time and "lack of stress" from refusing to even face their health or responsibilities outside work.

Many inventors, artists and "geniuses" had female assistants or neglected themselves to focus on only one area of life. Then, they never mention how they were only able to write that novel because someone made coffee and food for them every day or they only started that business by not shaving or washing themselves for weeks on end and still being accepted as a business person.

Edit: The Guardian wrote an entire article about how time-poor women are compared to successful men

letsberealforamoment · 2020-02-21T16:45:03+00:00

To the Pickmeishas:

So true OP. Pickmeisha, If they don't care, then why the fuck should YOU? Also, if they are that shortsighted that don't see how neglecting their health is tantamount to neglecting their marraige/relationship and YOU, then they are PER SE LVM and should be dumped instanter.

If they don't care for their health, or keep themselves healthy, don't be surprised that they won't care about YOU or your HEALTH when you are sick.

These men are black holes.

DallasOMalley · 2020-02-21T20:30:05+00:00

Also, how about the financial aspect of being with a man who neglects his health? (For FDSers not from the US, healthcare here can be incredibly expensive, and medical/dental debt can literally ruin a person's life.)

For example, one of my idiot exes skipped dental cleanings for a long time and didn't brush or floss regularly. His dental insurance covered cleanings at 100%, so those would've cost him nothing. Due to this compete self-neglect, however, he needed multiple expensive procedures that cost him thousands of dollars out of pocket.

If I'd married that moron, his dental bills would've affected not only his financial well-being, but mine as well. He neglected his health in other, more appalling and expensive ways too, but those are stories for another time.

Ladies, if your finances are entangled with those of a man who chronically neglects his own health, you need to know this: that man doesn't give a shit about himself, and he definitely doesn't give a shit about you. This is a man who's fine with dragging you into poverty because he wouldn't practice basic health maintenance. He's going to drag you right down with him someday and it won't be worth it.

Kekekeke7777 · 2020-02-21T17:24:06+00:00

Yes. My dad is so guilty of this. He put off a simple procedure for 2 years. Luckily he got away with it and when I went with him to get it done it hadn’t gotten any worse. I’m planning on using resources to get him help in his old age because I can’t be taking care of him when he’s sick because he didn’t take care of himself.

catsuramen · 2020-02-21T22:39:43+00:00

Men who don't go to the doctor are selfish.

Because inevitably they will rely on his wife, gf, children to take care of him and put stress into their lives. I got no time or condolences for selfish men so I remove myself from them.

2020-02-21T21:58:58+00:00

The amount of men who are not in therapy is staggering. My creepy, weird ex is going to grad school to be a social worker, but refuses to get therapy.

7_0f_9 · 2020-02-21T16:03:42+00:00

So true. They create their own problems and blame everyone but themselves and their own inaction.

TwirlingSquirrel · 2020-02-21T19:41:25+00:00

I'm scared of the doctor, and I still go. That's what actual functioning adults do! Why won't men take care of themselves?? I think their moms did far too much for them for far too long--definitely true of my ex I think. I hope we are raising sons to be better than previous generations!

9penguin · 2020-02-21T18:40:12+00:00

Yes, if they want to die, let them die. They'll let you and themselves die because they don't care, so why should we care. Men never care about women or children, it's time women stop caring about men and care about themselves.

Aroundthewayjay · 2020-02-21T19:20:45+00:00

OMG THIS. I am 42 years old and single guys my age- I would say a good 80% I have experienced, have not gone on their own accord for a checkup in the past 5 years UNLESS something was wrong. Im over trying to teach adults how to adult.

Toomanyprollems · 2020-02-22T03:55:55+00:00

Don't marry someone who won't go to the doctor or won't take care of themselves. You'll be nursing his prematurely geriatric ass while you're still feeling young and spry and wanna go to Hawaii and swim with dolphins in your retirement years.

With health, anything can happen to anyone at anytime. We don't have control over many health issues. But if a man eats like shit, won't exercise, won't go to the doctor please don't hitch your trailer to that. Find someone who cares for their body so you can both have a fighting chance to get the most out of life in your golden years.

detectivejuicee · 2020-02-22T02:04:23+00:00

Oh they have the same access to healthcare alright, but it’s so much more fun to medicate yourself with alcohol and weed. That’s what manly man do.

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