What do you ladies think of this: Guy I’ve gone on 4 dates with wants to go away for a weekend. We haven’t been intimate and I’m sure this is his way of guiding things in that direction.

shhdismuhthrowaway · 2019-12-04T19:15:19+00:00

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Scotsburd · 2019-12-04T19:09:35+00:00

If she wanted to go she would be happy and excited. As she is anything but, he needs to back off. She decides the pace, not him.

abacadabat · 2019-12-04T20:41:43+00:00

He's trying to finesse some sex.

1Here4Bach · 2019-12-04T20:53:37+00:00

Someone stop her before she ends up in a ditch in the woods.

level_up_always · 2019-12-04T19:50:21+00:00

If you want to ask for separate rooms see what he says, but know that this is 100% to get you to fuck him.

extraacct1234 · 2019-12-04T20:59:18+00:00

Never ever ever go away alone with a man you hardly know. I did that once (3 weeks dating, the very first guy I ever dated). He took me on a road rage spree in my own car, physically threatened me, terrorized me, dumped me when we got to our location and then lost his shit and started threatening me when I wouldn't drive him home. He spent three weeks threatening to kill me after. When I tried to get help from the cops they told me "come back when he rapes or murders you". This literally sounds fake it's so insane. Not saying yours might turn out as bad as this but it could easily be half as bad and it could easily turn into rape or assault.

oh I forgot the part where somebody else assaulted him (a female friend of 10 years bizarrely) because of the way he was acting and then he went to security and told them about it and then two giant men tried to attack me in the middle of the night when I was trying to leave. One of them lunged at my face as my car window was closing.

Edit: you're a virgin? Absolutely do not go away with someone you hardly know where you'll be in a position with immense pressure to give in. I would never consider having sex without months of commitment and in your own place without alcohol and certainly without being alone somewhere with a man when he has so much more control.

tactical-lucy · 2019-12-04T19:48:33+00:00

If he is asking about it multiple times through a night that should be a clear indication that he is in valuation seeking mode and is seeing your relationship with him as a means to get sex instead of developing a fulfilling partnership. Sure he might not have moved on from you after 4 dates without sex, maybe he is a prince sometimes but this to me proves he is still a low value male. Move on

letsberealforamoment · 2019-12-04T19:32:52+00:00

I'd say, "Sure I'd love to go! But I will not fuck you under any circumstances. Nor get naked with you. And you better not even try. Sound good? "

rftw2013 · 2019-12-04T20:57:09+00:00

Easy. Tell him you'll be needing your own room. Problem solved.

shhdismuhthrowaway · 2019-12-04T19:10:29+00:00

I’m not exactly sure what I’m looking for in sharing this. Advice maybe. This is the first guy I’ve ever been on more than 1 date with and I’ve also never been intimate with any one to boot.

Growing up I saw a lot of toxic relationships and it made me generally wary of the intentions of the opposite sex.

I feel a bit prudish as well, but I just don’t want to go from 0 to 100 with someone I really don’t know that well either. I don’t think 4 dates is really enough time to get to know someone.

dissonantlotus · 2019-12-05T00:43:30+00:00

If you’re questioning it, there’s a reason why. Go with your gut!!!!! Always go with your gut.

Deadgirl1888 · 2019-12-05T02:25:52+00:00

He sounds rapey. It would be different if he invited you and a bunch of people and you had your own car. If you go he is going to expect sex and will coerce you into it or rape you.

sahalemarja · 2019-12-05T04:44:27+00:00

Nope

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