so some of my closest friends are married/long term relationships, two are younger and have what you call that “pick me” mentality and I just don’t go to them for advice. i’m 34 and just carry myself differently from what they do/say.

recently I’ve found that I can’t even share things with some of them because i get comments like “you’re salty”. All I shared was a screenshot of a text with a dude that went MIA for a week and popped up again. I don’t grasp what was salty about me taking an hour to reply (i was dozing in and out of sleep) and my response was brief (2-3 words) and I cut the conversation. — so maybe me bringing it up to the friend sounds salty because she thinks i shouldn’t talk to the guy but that’s just BS to me. i didn’t bitch the guy out or say “how come you haven’t texted me in days?!” or even come off argumentative.

(Sorry to ramble on but my friends and I can discuss anything, it’s just that our dating lives are very different so they claim they would do this or that but they’re not in my shoes and they don’t have any idea of this sub. )

anyway my point is i’d rather come here and seek your input on something.

this guy and i had been taking since last month. 4 dates and sleepover. he seemingly wanted something physical and I was into it. I waited til the 4th time because I felt like it. his text initiating dropped and i mentioned how he didn’t text me back and he jokingly called it nagging. so i pulled back and left him alone.

we didn’t talk again and it’s been a week. last night he texts me saying “Hi don’t forget about me” and I could’ve been bitchy and replied with a “salty comment” like “why shouldn’t I, seems you’re forgot about me” or other dumb shit that I would never say, even if it crossed my mind. Anyway I didn’t reply for an hour (i was in and out of sleep) and he texted again. I simply said “Hi 👋🏻” ...he replies “wake up” (trying to be playful as we were before) and I said “eh, i’m sick). this morning he’s asking what’s wrong. I replied with 5 words max and he told me to feel better. I thanked him and that’s it.

would you call this. dead situation? because it seems to me like it is, judging by a whole week of no texts and me finding this sub.
i’m not gonna ask questions or bring anything up to a manboy who is clearly insecure and just seeking attention because I stopped looking for his. i’m tired of his bullshit behavior. I’m also tired of opinions of my own friends who don’t know what dating is actually like nowadays.

sorry for the rant i’m hazy on cold meds. thanks ladies