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Affection and Flirting

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June 20, 2020

Any idea how much is enough?

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Title Affection and Flirting
Author the_sharpest
Upvotes 6
Comments 48
Date 20 June 2020 10:34 PM UTC (8 months ago)
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[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret49 points50 points  (2 children) | Copy

Slightly more than you put into this post

[–]itiswr1ttenRed Beret12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

I want sex what do

[–]JasonStar794 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

I don't know man, you don't want her feeling overwhelmed.

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy

Flirt with me for a bit and I'll let you know.

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando30 points31 points  (30 children) | Copy

Oh fuck .. your post history dude..

My wife and I haven’t had sex in 5 months. She gives her 100% attention to work and kids and her stresses. I’m a roommate that does dishes and laundry. She doesn’t even go out of her way to buy presents for me let alone affection. I wonder if I exist anymore or I even matter to her. But we have two kids and I love her.

I don’t know what to do. I don’t know what to do. It’s depressing.

Look - here's the best advice you will ever get - STAY THE FUCK OUT OF r/DeadBedrooms - it's a deadend circle jerk of faggots who will never get laid. Not just that they won't get laid with their wives. They will never get laid... with anybody. Unless it's a hooker - and even then, the hooker will feel disgusted after fucking them.

There's a reason why they are in there and there's a reason why they stay there. They are fucking idiots circle jerking over how shit their sex lives are and patting each other on the back with their cum soaked hands telling each other that it's not fair and they deserve better.

You see.. a group of fat men with cum soaked hands, circle jerking about one woman not fucking them is not attractive.

Get the fuck out of that sub. Move over to this one. Then maybe we can help you.

And remember Rule No.1 ; Be attractive, don't be unnatractive.

Disclaimer: It's going to suck.


Because you are a FAT FUCK;

So my walking is generally normal. It’s only when I’m tired and working them to walk for a distance. Balance is an issue when I am tired. Jogging is something I can’t do anymore. Sports is something I can’t do anymore. Ampyra help with this?

Who can barely even walk.

Remember Rule No.1 ? Be attractive, don't be unnatractive.

I’m always the one with the kisses, back rubs, love you’s and I get none of that in return. I am always available.

Who has covert contracts

Remember Rule No.1 ? Be attractive, don't be unnatractive.

We’ve been married for 15 years and after our second- her sex drive took a huge nose dive. Our son is 8. We’ve been in a sexless marriage for pretty much those 8 years despite being a good father, sweet to her, getting in shape, talking, etc etc etc

Who hasn't fucked in 8 years.. fuck me - you just beat u/foxynastywhateverthefuckhis name is by 3 years. That's a record.

Remember Rule No.1 ? Be attractive, don't be unnatractive.

I tried to focus on her health like exercise, vitamins, nutrition, no improvement. And it’s all BS. All this self help is BS. No help whatsoever. She shows no interest. So where do I go? I watch porn to satisfy myself, which I feel guilty about. I tried to book a couple nights in a hotel for us last year, and she remarked that she wasn’t going to do that, because “people will know [sex] is why we’re going there”. It’s frustrating beyond words. I overheard her chatting with a close female cousin saying she won’t even do handjobs- and that [guys] “should get a magazine and go to a washroom”

Who tries to fix her instead of the actual problem

Remember Rule No.1 ? Be attractive, don't be unnatractive.

Jesus fuck - I've only read your first few posts. You're at the fucking top of the triage. You're the fucker wandering into the hospital A&E with your fucking guts hanging out and your fucking spleen trailing behind you, blood everywhere.. like literally seconds away from dying .. and you're telling the girl at reception... "I think I cut myself - do you have any plasters?"

[–]the_sharpest[S] 9 points10 points  (23 children) | Copy

Point taken. Time to stop excuses and get to work.

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando15 points16 points  (2 children) | Copy

The reason why your wife won't fuck you is because she is repelled by you. She finds you disgusting. She doesn't want your dick anywhere near her, let alone inside her.

Who's fault is that?

100% yours.

No woman wants to fuck you. You are fucking repellent.

Who's fault is that?

100% yours.

Are you ready to accept that?

[–]johneyapocalypseThe one that says "Bad Motherfucker"6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

Your comments here are fucking funny.

Dude gets tired walking, lol.


Years here. Never heard that one before.

[–]Tyred_BiggumsRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

She’s scared for her life to have sex because he will crush and kill her.

OP - check with your doctor if you’re healthy enough for sexual activity.

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando7 points8 points  (5 children) | Copy

Answer the question - are you ready to accept that, you sad, fat, can barely walk, hasn't fucked in 8 years, piece of shit?

Are you ready?

[–]the_sharpest[S] 2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

Is this the part where I swallow the red pill?

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

You got yourself into the situation you are now in. The good news is that you can get yourself out of it, so you either swallow or it or stay as a fat, sexless fuck for the rest of your life.

Not really much of a choice, is there?

[–]the_sharpest[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Guess not

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Well then, consider this as Day 1.

Next step - start posting in OYS and show how your plan to get out of the shithole of a life you've dug yourself into.

And Welcome to The Club .

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret5 points6 points  (12 children) | Copy

And like he said, stay the fuck away from deadbeadrooms. They are like crabs in a barrel. None of them ever have solutions, and they will just keep you down with them.

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret9 points10 points  (11 children) | Copy

From one of the top comments to his post in r/deadbedrooms :

That bottom part. Tell her how much you love her. Tell her all the things you are doing and trying. Tell her you experience your love the most with her when you have sex, and when she says no it is the loneliest feeling in the world. That the one person who you want to love and accept you just told you they don’t want to. And despite all this it hurts so much because you can’t shrug it off and let it go because you love her so much.

Maybe write it out in a letter and read it to her. Do not be afraid to cry when you do. She needs to feel your emotions to get it.

'Cause you know that works. Fucking faggots.


[–]Over60_FireTempered3Red Beret0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Barf Barf Barf

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Don't try and swallow it back down yet, there's more from that thread:

... ask her if she knows how hard it is for you knowing that she doesn't care about your feelings. Tell her you've tried different things that didn't work and ask her what else you could do. Maybe she lacks of massages or attention without resulting in sex. Maybe she just doesn't care about you masturbate, so you could just do it without feeling guilty.... Bring her somewhere that brings up old good Memories and tell her you love her and will do everything to please her and she just have to ask what would make her happy.

[–]Over60_FireTempered3Red Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Most memorable and pukeable movie line from my olden days:

-love means you never have to say you're sorry.

...and we bought that crap, hook line and sinker. Choked down what it felt like to be a man, and slowly descended into beta hell.

[–]the_man_i_want_to_be0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Jesus, I used to do this shit.

Disgusting. My wife was a trooper.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

Dead bedrooms is Cesspool of faggots and fat chicks giving bad blue pill advice... all feeling sorry for their selves and taking comfort that others are also suffering... offering zero solutions that are helpful

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret4 points5 points  (4 children) | Copy

I waded in that pool once and offered advice to some dude screaming for help saying nothing he had done worked for years. Offered a solution that went against some fat chicks advice.

I'm banned obviously.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

LOL, same... but it was in a Facebook deadbedrooms. I gave some red pill advice and talked about how I had sex with my wife that day. Some fat chick commented and said “if you’re having sex with your wife, you shouldn’t be in here.”

If you’re not miserable like them and offer solutions, they don’t want to have anything to do with you


[–]Over60_FireTempered3Red Beret2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

I got banned for calling a guy, AND, his wife, fucktards. They have no sense of humor when they haven't had sex in years. Somehow, I survived my mental scars from getting that ban.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

You should get a t-shirt for surviving that

[–]Over60_FireTempered3Red Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah! Huckleberry! Finally someone that understands my pain!

And I want em to give me a hat to cover my mental.....scars.

[–]Vegasman200020 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Holy shit that is fucking horrible. Even at my worst I would know this was bullshit. I may not have known what to do, but I knew what not to do.

[–]business---travel1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Time to stop excuses and get to work.

Lift (today), hit the sidebar (today), and make a MAP (now).

[–]FoxShitNasty834 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

fuck me - you just beat u/foxynastywhateverthefuckhis name is by 3 years.


[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Fucking my sides hurt lol

Not the good kind of winning OP

[–]FoxShitNasty830 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Agreed skipper. I have the harpoon aimed at this one from the port bow. I'd fire at it but it's not worth sinking the the fucktard, she can't take much more weight.

[–]Vegasman200020 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I was never in dead bedrooms, but otherwise this was me a year ago.

[–]mrpmonk0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

They will never get laid... with anybody. Unless it's a hooker - and even then, the hooker will feel disgusted after fucking them.

Never heard of a worst insult.

[–]AlohaMaui8088 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Its pretty obvious from your replies to everyone's comments here that they are going over your head. That's ok, we all started somewhere, and most of us are still faggots just like you... just less of a faggot on most days.

Here's my advice:

Go to the sidebar ---> (if you're on mobile its the 3 dots on the upper right/the about section)

Start with Steel's Guide. Then read the whole sidebar over the next few months.

Read the beginner books like MMSLP, NMMNG, & WISNIFG, then read The Rational Male, then work into the intermediate books. Don't jump into the advanced sections before you've read and internalized the beginner books. Those intermediate and advanced books won't help you right now because you won't have the ability to apply them properly yet, and they will just confuse you because you haven't built your foundation of knowledge of basic concepts yet.

Start Lifting Heavy Weights at least 3 times a week. This is non-negotiable. LIFT or GTFO and go back to your miserable existence. I recommend 5×5 StrongLifts as a starting program. Its easy and quick, and if you practice your form as your weights go up, you'll make nice noob strength gains for at least the first 4 months before needing to change up your program.

Learn to STFU and especially Do Not Ever Tell Your Wife or Anyone about MRP or what you hope to accomplish here

Lift. Read. STFU.

And Post in the Own Your Shit thread every week for the next year. Take your licks in there and learn to be a real man by doing the hard work, and losing your ego. Take your balls back without saying a fucken word to your wife about it and maybe 6 months from now she will be licking yours again. More like at least a year for your sorry ass, but anything is possible, right princess?

[–]DeplorableRay1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Do you feel like flirting? Do you feel like giving her affection? What dance is the monkey performing tonight?

[–]2wo2wo3hree1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Licking your lips while slapping jelly on a sandwich is not flirting, OP!

[–]wheremyballsgo1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

1.21 gigawatts of flirting gets me laid every time.

[–]DeplorableRay1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

That’s the best damn preworkout.

[–]loliamsobroke0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

me too.

noticed when i go above and below 1.21 giga watts i never get laid.

[–]the_sharpest[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Just so you all know I have MS. There’s only so much I can do, but thanks for the ‘fat f*uck’ advice. I just needed a little help.

[–]PaperAlpha1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is another symptom of your problem. Get to work. You have a long way to go before MS is the limiting factor in what’s stopping you from being the man you want to be. Look up the Wahls protocol and get strict control of your diet and supplementation.

Just because you have MS doesn’t mean you have to be a faggot.

[–]johneyapocalypseThe one that says "Bad Motherfucker"0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Awww, your ms got you down?

How hard you have it; how tough it must be.

Doesn't she realize your pain? Doesn't she understand your struggles?

You're so strong.

You deserve better, right?

[–]DirtyNuke0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Don't expect quick results. You can get to the moon but you haven't even hired your German rocket scientists yet. You can look at my history - years but you can make it IF you're willing to do the work every day.

[–]the_sharpest[S] -2 points-1 points  (4 children) | Copy

More info: We’ve been married 15 years. Two kids. I’m blessed with a hot wife, so my game needs to be airtight. Just asking because there’s a distinction between lovey huggie and kissy and ass grab/pat- and in yoga pants, she’s got it.

[–]wheremyballsgo5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy

blessed with a hot wife

This mentality shows a lot about you. She's the prize. You feel undeserving of her attention or affection. You're such a lucky fella to be a part of her life. Oh what you've done and tried to do to win her over these past 5 months.

she’s got it

Had to mention it again, it's unfortunate for her and you that you're not the one "who has it". At least you managed to find your way here from that dbr place you realized was full of simp faggots. Get to work

[–]the_sharpest[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Which is why I asked the question how much affection and flirting...

[–]kendallb183Record Retard Hall of Fame - #12 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Your still asking what you can do for her to get you laid. The redpill mentality is to quit thinking in terms of how to get something from her by doing just the right amount of x y or z. Youve made having sex with her the prize you have to win and your playing what ever game you can to win it. The thing the redpill teaches is that by trying to win that game you ensure you lose it. You get your wife to fuck you by improving yourself, stop chasing her showing how desperate you are (because women can detect desperation even in the smallest amounts) and desperation or quid pro quo acts for sex are HIGHLY unattractive to women in general and especially your wife. She doesn't want to feel obligated to fuck you. She wants you to be confident in yourself, take charge of your life and fitness, and become a confident man again who she WANTS to fuck because she is turned on by those traits just like any other woman. Fix yourself and she will follow. Chase her and she will run away.

[–]wheremyballsgo0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Aww you still want spoon fed the answer? Answers 0(from you). Get to work

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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