There’s this guy who frequently remarks on my figure (specifically how small/thin I am) and uses words like “cute” and “tiny”, and I don’t know whether it implies some sort of attraction or if I’m reading too much into it. He’s never specifically called me pretty/hot, but often comments on my clothes in a positive manner or will notice small changes in my appearance (my hair being straightened or my toes being painted). He’s occasionally told me I look “great” or like a “million bucks” when I’ve gotten dressed up and I guess that’s the closest thing to a direct compliment. I don’t know what type of woman he’s physically attracted to, so I don’t know if being called “tiny” is a good thing or not.
To give context, I’m a client at a place he works so there’s a lot of rules regarding boundaries and he’s said himself that he feels he has to be “careful complimenting women”. Not sure if relevant, but he’s also 15 years older than me so I guess it’s possible he sees me in a paternal light (though he has mentioned he likes younger women).
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In this particular case I would suggest the following method (I learned this as an introvert dealing with extroverts): Observe how the Extrovert is treating you in comparison with others. If he has similar comments and compliments for other women, though they may be slightly different since different women have different things to be complimented on and he makes similar pointed comments on haircuts and outfits and whatnot, then he is just being extroverted and you are misconstruing old school gregariousness with romantic or sexual interest. Same with how he treats men by the way. As an aside, this is how I know that every waitress or hostess does not, in fact, want to sleep with me.
If, however, these comments and compliments are reserved only for you, then chances are high that he likes you. As you are the Client, you might not have a choice, but to make the first move and it probably has to be a direct one. As he is an older man, he won't be intimidated or turned off if you do.
Good luck either way.
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Tldr:
Chad lite is hitting on me. Should I have sex with him yes or no?
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Stereotypes exist for a reason. She's sexually attracted to him or else she wouldnt have made this post. Women that wait a while dating before sex are looking to lock down a beta bucks. The only exception to the rule are virgin women. The rule is the exception, and the exception is the rule for women. It's okay that you're frustrated that I understand female nature.
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Disease is already rampant because women are sexually irresponsible.
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Why is it shared responsibility when it doesnt benefit women, but women get 100% when it benefits her?
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See what you did? You just took responsibility away from women and shouldered onto men.
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Age is just a number (post sexual maturity). Women are attracted to established men.
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This man is a coworker and he’s telling you about his dating preferences and hitting on you. You have an inappropriate conception of boundaries if you think this is normal.
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