AITA for insisting my newly vegetarian wife still cook meat for me?
Wife [28F] and I [28M] have been married for 2 years now. About a year ago Wife came home and informed me that she had quit her job. She hated her job and only made about $1000 a month there so it really wasn't worth how unhappy it made her. I certainly would have appreciated a heads up, but I couldn't be too upset.
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I told her I would dip into my personal savings for 2 months to make up for her lost income until she can find another job. She instead informed me that she already had everything figured out. She would become a SAHW but we wouldn't adjust our lifestyle because I would work 8 hours of OT a week to make up for the $1000 a month. I looked at her like she lost her goddamn mind, but she explained she would take over all of my chores, she'd be able to run all of our errands, and she could cook all of our meals. When I got home I would be able to just relax. All I would have to do is focus on work and with her cooking every meal we'd be eating better and healthier. Sounded nice, but I was a bit skeptical because she only worked part-time prior, so theres no reason she couldn'tve been doing some of that stuff already. But she was so excited about it and I hadn't seen her that happy in awhile so I agreed to try it out.
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The results have been less than advertised. I still do my own laundry and run errands on the weekends. She's maybe cooked breakfast (before I leave for work) 10 times in the past year. But one thing she has been really good about, and is by far the most important thing to me, is that she does the grocery shopping and cooks dinner 5x a week. She's a great cook and her food is delicious.
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Yesterday, she informed me that she is going vegetarian. Awesome! I fully support that. I told her she can just cook my meat on the side, and when necessary I'll mix it in with my food. She said no. She will no longer be cooking meat at all. In fact, she will no longer be buying meat from the grocery store. If I didn't want to eat her vegetarian dishes I would have to go to the store myself, buy meat, bring it home and cook it myself. I'm an avid weight lifter, I eat a ton of meat daily. But I still said OK, fuck it. I'll stop working OT so I can come home and cook my own meals with meat, and you can just go back to work to contribute to our household because if you're no longer going to do the only thing you've been consistent with, then we need to end this arrangement. She began to cry and called me financially abusive and I'm holding it over her head that I make the money and forcing her to be my personal chef who cooks what I demand when all she wants to do is become more ethically conscious. I don't feel that way at all. All I wanna do is eat meals with meat, I don't care who cooks it. But obviously if its going to be me, then I need to get off work a little earlier, and she needs to start working at least part-time.
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