Importance of sex

Mrs_Drgree · 2021-07-28T01:24:57+00:00

Removed for low effort

svenshapiro · 2021-07-28T00:29:04+00:00

You're falsely assuming that the people who tell you that sex isn't important only believe so because they have an abundance of it, but that isn't true.

A lot of people actually don't find sex to be very important, or they grow out of thinking that it is. Some people think that sex is a nice thing but can go years without it if need be. Others are obsessed with it. People are just different in that way.

A good comparison is food. Not everyone is a "foodie". Some people actually don't really care about food that much. They find a nice dinner pleasurable, but they don't really seek out the tastiest meals. Again, people are different.

That's just one side of it. The other thing that's important to understand is that that a big part of sex is ego. People either feel validated by it, or they obsess over not having enough of it.

Once you stop assuming that others have an abundance of sex and once you learn to separate sex from your ego, you'll realize that you don't need it quite as much as you thought you did.

Razumnyy · 2021-07-28T00:41:35+00:00

What is your definition of important? People can survive without sex, but not without food. If your definition of important is it being necessary, then it is less important than food.

Why does talking about famous people cheating, or some people wanting to have sex with famous people mean sex is important? Just talking about or wanting to do something may not necessarily mean it is important.

Some people would leave a relationship if they didn’t have sex enough, some wouldn’t care and find masturbation to be just as satisfying. Some people might care if their partner had lots of sexual partners before them, some might not. Some may be willing to have casual sex, some may want to save it for marriage. Some may be fine with open relationships. The importance depends on the person.

weareallscrewed01 · 2021-07-28T00:49:35+00:00

Sex is overrated, coming from a man who has never had it. I'm sure its great but the level of obsession some guys have with it (i.e. you) is a neurosis that gets worse the more you fuel it with 'sex is like air' analogies and fantasies of being chad. I got two dudes hitting on me in my reddit dms because they thought I was a woman (I'm not). They were perfectly civil but they had absolutely nothing to go on except a couple rambling posts on ppd. I don't understand that level of thirst, and I expect a lot of women are in the same boat (though again I AM NOT A WOMAN) even if they aren't getting any. Though I will concede that:

-the reason I am not totally obsessed with sex might be the same reason I haven't had any: my appearance screams hormone disorder.

-I am technically mgtow/volcel because a couple girls hit on me and I shot them down. The first girl might have been messing with me (she did flash me but who knows) but the second was definitely sincere and turning her down was painful. She was mentally ill, but I'm mentally ill and unattractive so its not like I deserved better.

TomorrowsWar · 2021-07-28T00:31:15+00:00

Some people don’t care about sex. Some people don’t even like it. If it’s important to you, find someone who also finds sex important

flapperfemmefatale · 2021-07-28T01:07:20+00:00

Speaking as someone who has had REALLY good sex, no it's not important to me, and I haven't had sex on over a year I think.

Unless you want kids, sex is just for orgasms. Whether someone else gives me one, or I give one to myself, it's still an orgasm.

You compared it to food, so think of it like a craving for mac and cheese. I could order from a restaurant, or I could make it at home. While one may be better than the other, both satisfy the craving.

EDIT: I'd also add that if you genuinely cannot live without sex, you have some issues you need to tackle.

Chefbraidy · 2021-07-28T00:41:30+00:00

Anybody that says sex isn't important or doesn't matter should stick by their word and have no issues, with their spouse or partner sleeping with someone else since it's no big deal. Anyone that pretends that one of the most fundamental, important and principled biological desires is not important is not worth listening to.

closeraway16 · 2021-07-28T00:34:56+00:00

Sex is primal. Not much choice but to want it.

it's easy for everyone to aqcuire it. And if they can't, then they must be doing something wrong.

Pretty much describes most women and attractive men.

A bit like a happy person telling a depressed person to just ”get over it.” Unable to form empathy, just remaining tone deaf, unaware of what’s outside of their own human experience.

A bit like telling the citizens of a poor country to “stop being poor“ while never bothering to visit the country to learn the challenges. It must be their “attitude” that causes their poverty.

Its what you get in a society of narcissism.

mimblezimble · 2021-07-28T00:46:11+00:00

The true biological importance of sex is that we use it to reproduce from generation to generation.

In that context, the need for recurring sexual tension relief is an important biological tool to encourage a man keep going back to a woman and provide her with money for her household.

If men did not need sexual tension relief as much, we would not find it worthwhile to fund a woman's household.

In those circumstances, the brood could find itself starved of the cash needed to survive. This kind of outcome is often devastating in terms of long-term survival of the brood.

Therefore, a wife who refuses sex to her husband behaves in violation of the rules of our biological programming.

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houstongradengineer · 2021-07-28T01:20:59+00:00

I can't speak to casual sex, as I have never participated in such and have no interest in such. Within the context of a relationship, sex has many levels of importance. It'll be different for different couples and different life stages. Important for a variety of reasons, some more crucial than others. Sex is definitely of equal importance to a romantic relationship as all the other relationship factors. UNLESS someone is asexual, which once again, I cannot really speak to.

Source: my father's relationships all the way from youth to old age, and my intimate relationship from virgin to long(ish)-time wife. I get the feeling plenty of other people my age have not closely seen long-term sexual relationships play out the way I have seen it as a MC white, religious family person.

ErenYeagerwasright · 2021-07-28T00:57:41+00:00

If sex is not important. Then how come women have such high bodycounts? How come famous men are praised for having had "sex" with so many groupies? As they say, "sex sells", so apperantly it's considered very important in society to be sexually active.

Title	Importance of sex
Author	ErenYeagerwasright
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Date	July 28, 2021 12:12 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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