Did I make the right decision pushing this guy last night?

Big_Red_suppository · 2018-07-08T22:28:39+00:00

Coulda got your dick sucked you fag smh

nofilmynofucky · 2018-07-08T22:05:48+00:00

I think it's generally the right decision to defend yourself against someone who has sexually assaulted you.

Caper67 · 2018-07-08T22:00:00+00:00

You should have told him you're not that easy.

Victor-James · 2018-07-08T22:59:31+00:00

Personally, I don't think there was any need to go out of your way to push him to the ground. You easily could have looked at him and said something along the lines of "hey man, don't you ever do that again". Simple. Powerful. That is you in you masculine presence.

Now if you told him that and he didn't apologize and instead got into your personal space, then your actions would have been warranted.

VikkBlack · 2018-07-08T23:59:08+00:00

getting your ass grabbed aint good but making a fight about it? Just doesnt worth it, especially in a club/closes area with bouncers. You can pat yourself on the back how tough you were but thats it, you could have gotten into a fight, he could have had buddies to fight, a knife. Not saying to act submissive, just seems like a stupid idea to make such a scene.

IamMrDirty · 2018-07-08T23:31:40+00:00

Surprised the bouncers kicked him out. Wherever you are and whatever u look like brings a lot of context into it. Meaning say, Russia - they'd kick the faggot out and beat the shit out of him.

New york, seattle (most bars?, think liberal)- they'd kick u out n beat shit out of u for using the faggot word

LA or Vegas not certain - they would kick him out bit they wouldn't like u using that word maybe.

And the other part is how u look . If u saw creepy weak lookin white Arab or Brown (blacks r lil tricky)dude at the bar then yea they'd not bother at all might even laugh at u

mugenowns · 2018-07-09T09:16:40+00:00

I don't think you made the right decision. Here's why:

You feel the need to mention he's scrawny. I have to ask, would you react the same if he was jacked? I'm tempted to grab your ass if I ever see you just to test if you're a big man around everyone, or just a bully. Based on this post you sound like a bully.
Where would you be if he'd fallen on the ground and hit is head, or broken an elbow? And before you try to claim self defense it sounds like he had already walked away and you called him back to fight. He could probably press charges without being injured, but imagine if he had been. Does being and jail and being broke sound like fun to you? Some of the comments have an interesting view of self defense. Take their advice if you want to end up in jail getting much worse than groped.
You lost frame. Not the worst on this list, but you definitely did. Someone crosses a line and you over react. Shows weak frame.

super_hater · 2018-07-08T22:50:24+00:00

Ignore all the beta faggots shaming you here. You did the right thing. If someone sexually assaults you physically, you have the right to defend yourself.

walrus_paradise · 2018-07-08T22:28:56+00:00

Nothing wrong with defending yourself, don't think you needed to call him a faggot. Just a smirk with a "Guy grabbed my ass" would have sufficed, but whatever

InscrutablePUA · 2018-07-09T01:37:15+00:00

The only issue I see with what you did is that he could've been carrying a weapon and you could be dead right now. If you're escalating a fight one step, be prepared to go all the way, especially in a bar.

DoIEvenLift111 · 2018-07-08T22:40:42+00:00

you reacted like someone who's massively insecure would react.

sars445 · 2018-07-08T22:28:29+00:00

Wow what a pathetic pussy you are

cl3537 · 2018-07-09T02:05:32+00:00

No, and the next one might hit you over the head with a beer bottle after you pushed him. Or better yet the bouncers throw you out on your ass for starting a fight.

So cute fucktards come here asking for confirmation bias from other fucktards.

Funny thing is most people here are scrawny fucks who couldn't fight if their life depended on it.

The truly good fighters and martial arts masters know how to avoid a fight and only fight when it is absolutely necessary which is just about never.

notgiantsquid · 2018-07-09T04:11:49+00:00

Minimal force necessary or something like that.

Pieisgood186 · 2018-07-09T04:41:14+00:00

While the tough guy in me is fine with what you did and I would have said something if that happened to me I’ll answer this as someone with experience in the legal field and who’s seen this happen. For one, it’s no longer considered defense when you ask the guy to come back over and then you shove/push him. Plus, it’s in public and most (reasonable) women don’t want to deal with that shit, especially when it’s clear that the other dude is much smaller than you and then calling him a faggot to the bouncer. At that point you just look like an ass (no pun intended).

NextForever · 2018-07-08T23:18:13+00:00

no, that's battery in a public area ya idiot

light-----------dark · 2018-07-08T23:49:00+00:00

Probably would have been better off imagining it was a girl you were trying to fuck last night and leaving the guy be.

You’d at least appear a bit more confident, and probably would have left there with some actual pussy instead of looking like one.

FiveStarTendieDinner · 2018-07-09T05:48:31+00:00

Could have stabbed him in your "defense" and that would have been fine.

abudun79 · 2018-07-09T06:03:21+00:00

Not to bad, for someone who acts on feelings. I hope you did not ruin your fingernails and nylons, happens so fast in a catfight.

[deleted] · 2018-07-09T06:16:21+00:00

You should be careful these days... if he injured himself after you pushed him and called him “faggot,” they’d probably charge you with a hate crime or something now.

byronichero99 · 2018-07-09T06:30:49+00:00

Fuck you did the right thing! It would infuriate me if that happened to me!! Fucking faggot deserved it! No offence to anyone but The rise in the whole LGBT stuff makes them think that they get a free pass for anything! The slightest issue and the whole queer community gets involved! You get labelled as homophobic.

takobozu · 2018-07-09T10:29:54+00:00

you broke frame like a little pussy

mrHappyPotatoe · 2018-07-09T10:42:59+00:00

Yes.

I personally would have punched that faggedy face in.

ddiogenesofsinope · 2018-07-09T11:43:46+00:00

Nah that's fine

He's lucky he didn't get beat on more

riggedved · 2018-07-09T12:47:11+00:00

I don't think it was the right decision. Violence should always be used as a last resort, and in this situation, you could have dealt with it in a non violent way.

MattyAnon · 2018-07-09T18:01:39+00:00

I smiled at him and said come here then pushed him on the ground

unprovoked (and likely you can't prove he started it) physical assault is very risky.

menodialogues · 2018-07-09T21:19:18+00:00

sounds like you enjoyed it a little too much. still thinking about him the next day, smh.

bannedfromWTFmod · 2018-07-09T02:12:59+00:00

Yup, good move. That dude sexually assaulted you.

I would have created a reason for him to have dentures.

Seriously tho, be careful in what state you are in. The push could be seen as assault since he had grabbed you seconds prior and didnt hold on or.anything.

States have a " only defense is legal if you are being assaulted currently" and currently could have ended when he let go.

The__Tren__Train · 2018-07-09T02:30:38+00:00

seems like a bit of an overreaction to me tbh..

dxfifa · 2018-07-09T03:04:59+00:00

Starting fights creates danger and if there's no safety reason to fight then there is no point, especially in public. Control your urges or be a fucking weak minded animal

redd_reality · 2018-07-09T00:22:57+00:00

Hmm, it really depends.

The most secure men wouldn't frown and tell him "I'm not interested, don't do that again." but in a bar setting I don't think there is anything weak or wrong about shoving someone who touches you in a way you don't appreciate.

And afterall, it's your world. Let everyone else deal w the fallout🤘

Black_m0ngoose · 2018-07-09T05:41:42+00:00

There's a severe issue with your frame and how you carry yourself if you're getting your ass grabbed in public.

No man grabs the ass of a tiger. Be dangerous.

Title	Did I make the right decision pushing this guy last night?
Author	CashMeOnRedditDD
Upvotes	32
Comments	50
Date	July 8, 2018 9:50 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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