It is OK for men to cry. Our hearts can, and are, broken by women too.

theblackparade87C · 2021-05-15T22:37:06+00:00

Men can cry. That's not the problem. The problem is because no one gives a shit about us. We can cry and cry and cry but no one will still give a shit. Men should be able to cry but society still won't care.

HeadHigh71 · 2021-05-16T02:40:27+00:00

That's horrible, but it's being a hypocrite. I hate that you do everything in your power to stay loyal. Not looking at other girls, not flirting, going to strip clubs ECT. But then they go and do it and say I'm in Vegas with my aunt and we met some people but it was innocent. Then you call them out on it and somehow you're the bad guy. I call bs.

michaelscott1776 · 2021-05-15T17:21:34+00:00

Not to mention his wife was having a relationship with one of his son's friends who was a minor when their relationship started

RockmanXX · 2021-05-15T21:21:45+00:00

He's not crying, some people want to see Men cry in public for some sick reason. But No, Will Smith did NOT Cry.

2021-05-16T14:24:27+00:00

Men cry in front of their buddies and their parents, but not in front of their women. That's how they lose respect unfortunately.

zogins · 2021-05-15T22:31:24+00:00

Some of the comments here mention that 'love' is a different thing in the way it is experienced by men and women.

This is an area which fascinates me. I majored in Chemistry and Biology was my second subject.

We spent many but many weeks learning and studying about sexual selection. Sexual selection was first made popular by Charles Darwin himself. But I do not think that is the right sub for me to go off geeking about evolution.

2021-05-17T14:02:57+00:00

Can someone please explain to me why people keep waffling on about men crying instead of, I dunno, any one of the other forms of healthy emotional expression?

Lupin_The_Fourth · 2021-05-15T22:58:03+00:00

I cry all the time. Wake up and look at my son sleeping, cry. Remember when my son was a baby, cry. Thinking about how happy my son is, cry.

ImpossibleAir4310 · 2021-05-16T09:47:56+00:00

Anyone interested in the origins of toxic masculinity should pay close attention to this post.

Mostly, men can do wtf they want. The problem is that men pay a social price for expressing those things publicly. This is a perfect example of a man being belittled and punished because he had the courage to express his feelings in public. (Rather than turn it into some kind of anger or stoicism.)

It’s really rather infantile when you think about it (“haha - willy’s crying”...) nowadays we call those kids bullies and we call them out to the principal. Usually they pick on the other kids because of trauma or some painful aspect of their lives they can’t control. So what’s society’s excuse?

I think it’s cultural too. While there is definitely a universality to it, I’m fairly certain that a man crying of a broken heart is looked at a bit differently in, say Italy, or France - better for example - where the complex history of chivalry and the idea of “pure” love as adulterous/forbidden love has infused itself into the cultural consciousness. (Marriage was for property and could not be squandered on feelings and the marriages of noble women were arranged long before any time for courtship. A noble marrying a commoner would be a scandal. This paradoxically leaves only adultery.) Bc of this history, love is long held as an ideal, something that elevates a man to a higher purpose and greater good, and therefore, a wounded heart can be associated with an honorable knight, a noble quest against all odds. This idea probably dates back to the 14th century, when America was not a thing. It’s also probably a lot harsher in some environments.

There are cultures with even more dire consequences for “unmanlyness.” EG Palestine, Armenia, Saudi Arabia (IME with people, I’ve never lived in those cultures). But we’re pretty bad here in America too IMHO.

thenhk23 · 2021-05-15T20:27:21+00:00

Its only men who are capable of loving a woman. Women cant love men, their definition of love is great companionship. There are a lot of men who went mentally sick/disabled because they loved someone. You wont find any woman with such case.

ArgueLater · 2021-05-15T22:49:26+00:00

Fetishsizing Men Crying Posts

Look, it's totally okay to cry. And if you need to hear that to do it, please find a private space and let it out.

But the issue is not that men don't cry enough, it's what men want to cry about.

Bropil · 2021-05-16T13:08:45+00:00

So memes cant have crying people on them anymore? Thats what we are fighting against? Memers?

purplelightofRED · 2021-05-16T01:22:19+00:00

Nooooope! I disagree. Maintain your frame.

Cindylynn43 · 2021-05-16T18:11:03+00:00

It's a human emotional release. Crying should not be only for Women. Stuffing down emotions will only come out in other ways like anger, or overly risky behavior.

Title	It is OK for men to cry. Our hearts can, and are, broken by women too.
Author	zogins
Upvotes	178
Comments	76
Date	May 15, 2021 5:17 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/nd3qw9/it_is_ok_for_men_to_cry_our_hearts_can_and_are/
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