What ready opened up my eyes to the harms of feminism was when a feminist said that my brother killed himself because of his own toxic masculinity, 3 days after he died.

And that too she did not say in an empathetic way. It was in a very condescending way. I do not talk to her anymore. I can assure you that whatever toxic masculinity means semantically. It is used to most of the time for victim blaming. My brother did not deserve that. He was a good fun-loving guy who always respected everyone. This is not what he deserved. Keep doing what you do at this sub. I support you!