Does dating get better in your 30s? (The Truth)

thesneedfulneedful · 2023-10-17T17:46:36+00:00

It doesn't get better, but I found my opportunities for simpdom and pseudocuckery increased.

Many of you will have women from your pasts who either rejected you or were just acquaintances or friends come to you with obvious intentions as you cross the 30 years mark. Some of them will have been freshly divorced and have several kids from a guy that apparently was not le heckin good personality after all, it only took them twelve years of getting dicked down by their tall exes to figure out their heckin' baderino personalities. I have had several such experiences in the last few years, and its a tragedy because I have too much self-respect to be conned into being free labor for an old woman who found me repulsive when she was beautiful and vivacious.

Do not fall for their act. If you're going to have fun, nut and ghost.

Salt_Vermicelli9788 · 2023-10-17T19:49:31+00:00

If you get nothing in your prime in your late teens and early 20s, things are unlikely to improve as you get older. Best case scenario is that you can get a transactional/betabuxx relationship with some used up woman. But why would you want that?

EverVigilant1 · 2023-10-17T20:42:24+00:00

Truth: It gets easier for men in their 30s because they get more comfortable doing without, or going long stretches without. They get set in their ways and get comfortable with who they are even if that includes no women.

I think it's some combination of all three (women getting more desperate; some improvement; and money/status).

Women still look fine at 30; but it's the bio-clock telling them they need to get at least one kid popped out. Women also crave the status that marriage gives them. They just have to have it and they'll settle hard and deep to get it.

kukkle1111 · 2023-10-17T21:52:33+00:00

Was dating easy in your teens and twenties?

There’s your answer.

ar_menelos · 2023-10-17T18:16:11+00:00

I was thinking about this yesterday when I was driving back from work.

The way not to get betabuxxed in your 30s is to have strict rules in the relationship

1) All bills will be split by half.

2) Sex at least once a week

3) Marriage only with a prenup

4.No kids

Crypt0Cel · 2023-10-17T17:39:33+00:00

From a logical point of view, it doesn't. Dating only gets harder as you age for most people. Of course you can always increase your status, get fitter, etc. but in the your 'options' won't be higher in quality.

95%+ of dudes in their 30s are most likely dating single mothers, chads' leftovers and in general women with a bodycount who they probably don't want to marry, they only do it out of desperation. Only exceptions are guys who achieved a certain level of success and can afford to date 18-20 yo high value women.

EvilMan1212 · 2023-10-17T17:33:06+00:00

If a man is smart, when he becomes wealthy, he would never date ever again and instead enjoy the infinite quality and quantity of young pussy that he wants. Why hand his wallet along with his testicles to a woman when he finally gains value in the dating market?

SilentFroggy · 2023-10-17T19:53:45+00:00

I also noticed shorter, facially average men tend to only be walking with women if they're both older (30+). When looking at young couples, e.g. on my university campus, the guys with women are almost always tall and handsome or one or the other (tall or handsome).

Yep, I’ve said this many times. On average, the women I see walking on campus are usually alone with their friends and/or with a guy that’s at least htn. But bluepillers will cherry pick the few rare unattractive couples they see and think it goes against our theory.

Wide-Illustrator2906 · 2023-10-17T20:39:42+00:00

Better as easier to get sex =Yes

Better as in more high quality women =No

Ok_Smile_60 · 2023-10-17T22:45:33+00:00

I’m recently divorced at age 36, coming out of a 9 year marriage. I would say i have more opportunities at 36 than I did at 26, last time I dated, but they’re not opportunities I want.

Basically, mid 30s me is more attractive to mid 30s women than mid 20s me was attractive to mid 20s women. But the mid 30s women are much worse than mid 20s women, and I haven’t sunk along with them.

Granted, I’ve not been on a ton of dates, most matches in OLD don’t get that far. But what I’m finding is pretty much one of 3 categories:

1) Fat. Mid 30s women can still be beautiful. I’d these women ever were, they sure stopped trying. That’s no rice.

2) Single moms. I don’t care how amazing they seem on the surface l, single moms are no go. And plenty still look great.

3) massive entitlements. Two flavors, one was burned by other men and wants to punish her next man, or is super career focused and it felt like some sort of competition where she didn’t even have time for a relationship.

Note. Tons of amazing 30 year old women. They just not single. And while men in 30s can be worse as well, men can ‘fall through the cracks’ much much easier, so the odds of finding an good single man feels higher, as maybe he’s just not got that tingle maker personality, but is still a great guy, but never got a shot.

Women on the other hand can get relationships much easier, so the good ones don’t have much resistance to being in one by 35, leaving, well, the above.

That said, the only multiple dates I’ve been on was with a 26 year old, and why the primary issue I broke it off was it clear I wasn’t giving her the tingles. She also just wasn’t ready to settl down, and well, clearly that’s the stage my life is at.

Southern_Fall983 · 2023-10-18T02:51:16+00:00

It gets exponentially worse, and I’m so sick and tired of this bullshit lie.

The peak of your social life is over. You’re lucky if you have a couple buddies from work you’d feel comfortable having a couple beers with once a month on the weekend. No one is trying to “hook you up” with a friend, friends don’t meet friends as everyone is busy with their lives so you’re basically fucked

Before it may have been acceptable to meet someone at a bar, in your 30s+ the only people going to bars by themselves are likely booze hounds so your value is perceived to be way lower. Same with clubs

Since older there’s more of an emphasis on Beta Buxxing, whereas in your 20s it’s not as expected. Not only do women want decent looks, they want money too so they could groom you for husband status and/or to help take care of their kids

As bad as the 20s is the 30s and beyond are way, way worse

the-lone-squid · 2023-10-17T18:41:11+00:00

Not only does dating get worse in your 30s, but previous relationships often get worse in your 30s.

There is nothing like young love.

MakeSmash01 · 2023-10-17T18:35:45+00:00

Just to add to everything you wrote, life gets more chill and balanced in your 30's if you made even decently good decisions along the way. So relationships get way less stressful.

If it was true that guys would suddenly be able to get higher SMV for things other than status and BB they are delusional though. The rules don't really change that much just life is more chilln women's Smv from birth to death will permanently mog 99% of men's.

Also, once you're married to a woman her emotional state dominates everything which is why it sounds like hell to me. If he began probing too deeply about her spending and motivations she would have turned on him and gaslit him, and he couldn't do a fucking thing.

Marriage is like suicide to men. You can never question your partners decisions again or you risk backlash and spite that can ruin your life just to make her feel better.

Physical-Pie748 · 2023-10-18T01:29:06+00:00

dual mating strategy bro.

https://link.springer.com/referenceworkentry/10.1007/978-3-319-16999-6_238-1

https://abcnews.go.com/GMA/OnCall/story?id=1469078

NotARussianBot1984 · 2023-10-17T18:25:16+00:00

TLDR: There is piss in the dating pool, longer you are in it, the sourer your face gets.

Women don't become ugly cuz they turn 30, but I have noticed that a dozen years of chasing Chad, having him cheat on her, lie, abuse, dump, and overal treat her poorly leaves a massive emotional toll on women that needs a lot of therapy to heal from.

It's not looks, it's who they are fundamentally as a person. That's my experience. I've had women just break down crying on dates cuz I treated them nicely and it was the first time a guy actually wanted to date them and not act like an asshole. Many Chads (or relative Chads to the girl) act like shit to the women who they see as beneth them.

Also people have horrible eating habits so ya they just gain weight as they age.

curious_lychee9 · 2023-10-17T19:35:34+00:00

I’m 30 but have barely left my room since 25 and am still at the experience and maturity level I was at 20

Physical-Pie748 · 2023-10-18T01:12:07+00:00

dual mating strategy bro.

ChadCel73 · 2023-10-17T22:46:09+00:00

Dating does get better in your 30s because (some) women stop chad-chasing and they are more inclined to build something with someone. You also become more confident, socially skilled and less inhibited with time.

I actually have no problem with betabuxxing, if I'm able to put up a few rules to protect myself. They are mostly always splitting bills and getting a prenup. I'm not a chad so I won't get the kind of relationship based only on physical attraction that they are able to get.

West-Advice · 2023-10-18T07:09:29+00:00

So..you mean…people outgrowing bullshit makes them more attractive….NO WAY

its-probly-over · 2023-10-17T18:02:59+00:00

Dont know im not 30 yet

Title	Does dating get better in your 30s? (The Truth)
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Date	October 17, 2023 5:05 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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So..you mean…people outgrowing bullshit makes them more attractive….NO WAY