Advise for full custody

Bigboobedbbg · 2024-01-24T03:44:46+00:00

If you step into a court room right now depending on your state she will be given standard possession with you most likely being primary. There is no real argument against 50-50 unless she lives far away or is a threat to the child. I know it seems harsh but family court is harsh, and a judge wont look at 18 nights “away” over a 5 month period as a big deal esp if she is breadwinner. Most courts also don’t really care about infidelity unfortunately. So my answer is no you won’t get full custody in court and if she is already asking for 50/50 she isn’t going to agree to you being sole legal and physical custodian. Also depending on your state child support might be required so it might not be a good bargaining chip for her. Look into parallel parenting, it will help keep you sane.

Adventurous_Fact2083 · 2024-01-24T02:52:55+00:00

Ask for 80/20 and make the bitch a FB mom that way she can get the kid every other weekend. Most FB moms take their kids places and snap a few photos. Complete fake facade.

junkmailbox121 · 2024-01-24T01:49:04+00:00

Sorry to hear she’s not really interested in your daughter. I would bring up her past offer of custody and the house and see if it still stands. If you can live without child support then don’t request it from her. That may be enough to convince her to just walk away and may be enough to cover her half of the equity in the home. On paper you can put in a parenting plan to please the judge but if she’s checked out like it sounds, she might not visit your daughter or only visit when it’s at her convenience.

I wouldn’t ask for full custody now but if she never visits then petition to get full custody at a later time. Just make sure to get primary custody that states your daughter will be living with you.

Dan_H1281 · 2024-01-23T22:22:27+00:00

It doesn't sound like she wants to be a single mom, I think she likes the idea of 50-50 but I don't think she would keep it up long. Maybe she is worried about paying child support if you get full custody. Maybe make it clear you won't seek child support if u got full physical and have her have 50-50 legal. If she doesn't want to do this your best bet is to do the divorce keep the house if u can. And she will probably start flaking on visits and this is when you keep logs of all the visits she misses. And this so when u bring her back to court and prove she isn't being the parent she needs to be. But I truly think she will want to be back out their on her own doing whatever she wants because she doesn't want to be the mother she is supposed to be. I have full custody of my kids but my ex had some legal trouble and I hit the right moment. And she had time to appeal or bring me back to court but she Is living like a teenager right at 40yo

jimsmythee · 2024-01-23T21:16:33+00:00

Ok sorry. You have good intentions, but they're not realistic.

No court is going to give sole custody to a father, not unless the mother is dead or in prison. It's just not going to happen.

My exwife had a recent conviction for DUI with kids in the car when she crashed while driving high as a kite. She did jail time. And still 50/50 custody.

cschoonmaker · 2024-01-23T21:06:46+00:00

Yes you can ask. You can always ask. That does not mean that you will get what you ask for. In my state, 50/50 has become the norm for younger children unless one parent can prove the other to be unfit (i.e. drug arrests, documented history of abuse, etc). At 4 years old, there is no way for a child to determine what is in their best interests. That becomes the courts job. They will always determine custody based only on the best interests of the child.

And just remember that even if the court issues an order granting 50/50 custody, it doesn't mean that is set in stone. If circumstances change, the order can be modified. If you're granted 50/50 custody and she's constantly asking you to watch your child during her custody time, that's a change in circumstances.

Best option is to get a lawyer. Explain to them everything above and tell them you would prefer either primary or sole custody. They'll run through the possibilities with you depending on your location.

Title	Advise for full custody
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Date	January 23, 2024 8:34 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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