My marriage is a train wreck. I'm not perfect, but my wife has several past traumas. She says she's fine but she isn't. I've begged her for over a year to get help. All it does is cause a fight. Her words and actions show that everything is about her. Only her thoughts, feelings, and problems matter. She is quick to tell me when and how I've offended her or hurt her feelings. Every time I try to tell her the same, she insists I'm misunderstanding or misperceiving what she's done. She claims that because I misunderstand her, that causes me to get mad and hurt her feelings. So if I didn't misunderstand her, I wouldn't hurt her feelings. My physical and mental health are suffering. I've decided I can't take the double standards and lack of empathy anymore. I'm just trying to figure out what all to set up before I leave her. True, part of me is sad that it's ending, but it's not my fault. I've also decided. Once I'm divorced, I might have a long-term relationship in the future, but I'll never remarry.