Feeling lonely and heartbroken

Known_Paramedic_2967 · 2025-06-14T16:46:23+00:00

it’s been a year for me after a 30 year marriage to my HS sweetheart where she cheated on me with her best friend’s husband. I just broke up with a GF that I was dating for a year because she wanted to hear me say I Love You etc. I’m not a mushy guy. I do, however, show that I care through my actions. I introduced her to my family and friends, I brought her and her daughter stuff back from every business trip, I initiated ballroom dance lessons with her and her friends etc. so, I am back to where I started with being on my own and lonely. I completely understand your situation. I am trying to volunteer, I joined Meetup, I’m reaching out to friends, but that doesn’t help every day. I am also eaten alive by my thoughts of growing old and being alone.

MiloGoesToPorridge · 2025-06-10T09:51:14+00:00

Mate... You don't realise now that so many good things are coming your way, although it feels like the last thing that'll happen now. You do however, have to put a bit of work in.

Mental_Antelope_7202 · 2025-06-10T00:52:19+00:00

You're feelings are not uncommon. But this is your opportunity to heal, and come back twice as good. Don't spend too much time feeling bad for yourself. Time to get up.

roshi-roshi · 2025-06-09T03:11:53+00:00

Oh god, I’m with you.’it’s been a year for me. I got better for a while, but am now deep in it. The pain is unbearable.

509-406-678 · 2025-06-08T22:24:50+00:00

I’m sitting here alone feeling the same way man. I’m sorry bro

First-Sail8421 · 2025-06-08T14:59:02+00:00

Hang in there and walk through it. It will also feel bad when she gets a new man to replace you, which is probably only a matter of time. That continues to hurt even though the state now says we are no longer married.

Koldfacejillah · 2025-06-08T09:36:31+00:00

I feel you. I’m the same. Exactly the same. Why does divorce seem to hit men so much worse?

serkovavantgarden · 2025-06-08T08:53:14+00:00

Bro what are you upset about?

Getting divorced is amazing. Freedom gained. A new life!

Go do the things you couldn’t do when you were married.

Heal-After-Hearbreak · 2025-06-08T08:34:06+00:00

It’s devastating to have a 20 year relationship end. I hear how painful, and lost you feel. It sounds like you have lost a part of yourself and the loss of the hopes of future of your family together. You mentioned going through final stages of divorce and changing household are huge changes and adjustment to this new normal. It’s understandable you are feeling lost- you are the in between of your old life (grieving) and trying to create this new life. The in between phase feels unstable, feels consuming and intense, and uncertain. Those strong emotions may intensify b/c you are learning to adjust to this new role of being co-parents and not being lovers anymore. It hurts. Glad to hear that have a good arrangement to co parent, this gives some relief and makes it easier. I know you have to go through the emotions on your own, as this is your healing journey but I want you to know you’re not alone. A lot of people have experienced divorce, each is unique, and people get on the other side of it. In my experience, some of the things that can help is getting support and getting coping skills to handle the pain. Reaching out here, is a great step.

MonkeyBranchBuster · 2025-06-08T08:01:18+00:00

Don't be alone, hang out with people as much as possible, get into hobbies, work out, read, listen to music, get some me time you probably haven't had in ages being like many of us just a husband and a father. Invite people over, meet new women, date casual to get over your wife, your son will be fine while you heal.

Kids are much more resillient and adaptable to new situations than us adults.

I was a war child, and while adults were scared shitless, us kids on the block were having the time of our lives, war was just an exciting adventure for us. Kids just need love.

Title	Feeling lonely and heartbroken
Author	LovingDadNL
Upvotes	16
Comments	20
Date	June 8, 2025 7:11 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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