Getting my Attorney Tomorrow

monster_dutson · 2022-01-21T04:06:26+00:00

I'm right there with you! Hopefully filing by then end of the month. I just want it to be over.

pegleg_legal · 2022-01-21T04:15:17+00:00

Good man. I'm generally a big fan of opposite sex attorneys. The problem with female attorneys is that we men tend to use them for emotional support and therapy more than male attorneys. Keep that shit in check.

InAJam_SoS · 2022-01-21T04:49:35+00:00

If you're just now delving into this, I'd like for you to be aware of some things, so you know what type of arena you're stepping into and can be as prepared as possible. I'm not sure if you have children but even if you don't, this is a must watch: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rRTUCOxANWk&t=113s

And of course, the obligatory: Men's Divorce Forum - Most of us didn't realize what happens in family court until it was too late. We were broke, abused by the judges, the attorneys (both), tired, and indentured, whether it be child support, alimony or both along with the attorney's fees (both sides).

This is also required viewing for men & Fathers. - You see, when you signed the marriage license you signed a business contract. One that isn't fair, equal, and you can easily lose. You didn't need an attorney getting into this contract, but you need one to get out of it. There isn't even fine print IN the contract. But you are about to discover the unspoken, unknown fine print.

Summation: The family court system is corrupt and incentives mothers to lie, falsely accuse fathers of abuse-domestic or child, makes the provider for the family a mark for a legalized shakedown (alimony). It ensures the others attorney's fees are paid for by fathers (mostly). It provides no accountability for child support being spent for the child. It's sponsored by attorney lobbying groups, judges, and state and federal legislatures. It hides be the slogan "best interest of the child" when it is the complete opposite. It's an industry that parents (mostly fathers) have no idea how it works until they are deep into, broke, tired, abused, unable to pass on any wealth to their children. Don't for a second think that it isn't known how to have a fair process. All attorneys want or instigate the conflict. This means money for them. Why create a lightbulb that never runs out? What can you do? Be transparent. Tell family members, friends, grandmothers of sons what's happening. Always call out the system, not you ex. It is the system that's tailor-made for narcissist and takes advantage of them to keep the conflict going. Judges abuse their power and there are no checks and balances.

As awkward as the experience is I'd encourage you to share with everyone you can how the court system is treating you. NOT the opposing party's behavior, the court system as a whole and the process you will be forced to go through. There isn't enough sunlight in the dark dungeon that family court in America. If you were a provider, you're the mark. Whether you started the process or not.

Stay positive, best of luck and report back as often as you can because there are a lot of good folks here who understand the road you're on and are empathetic.

bacon-wrapped-steak · 2022-01-21T04:25:37+00:00

Hope everything goes well for you, brother! Best wishes.

NoMarriageNoKids · 2022-01-21T04:37:25+00:00

You'll get all of her stuff in discovery.

Electronic-Turn4202 · 2022-01-21T04:41:52+00:00

Good luck to you. Keep your head up high when you can, and accept that it’s normal to feel big feelings around all of this.

patently_pleasant · 2022-01-21T12:48:31+00:00

You’re going to have some dark days ahead. There will be days that you feel like you can’t focus and you just need to do the bare minimum to get through. That’s ok. Let your close coworkers know. Ask for help. Continue to see your therapist. Your new life is beginning. This can be exciting as you reinvent yourself! Get a new hairdo, find a new hobby, get some new clothes, spend more time with friends and family, start working out if you aren’t doing so already, etc. Best of luck. If you need a kind internet stranger to talk to you can dm me

Kwen_Oellogg · 2022-01-21T06:13:18+00:00

Well done brother. Your life will just get better and better from here.

NoMarriageNoKids · 2022-01-21T04:37:25+00:00

You'll get all of her stuff in discovery.

Title	Getting my Attorney Tomorrow
Author	ndeniably
Upvotes	19
Comments	14
Date	January 21, 2022 3:16 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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