How can they just move on?

NilesGuy · 2026-03-04T05:15:31+00:00

Guys enter into manipulationships . In the eyes of women they know it’s not real thereby making it easy for them to destroy you and walk away without remorse.

Always-tolkein · 2026-03-04T05:12:32+00:00

I want to be able to not feel like this. I wish I could shut it off as easy as she does.

ColdEstablishment172 · 2026-03-04T04:56:24+00:00

I'm so sick of guys coming on here whining and acting like women are these astute creatures that are somehow superior than us. News flash: they are not. Neither men or women are. We are just different.

I hate how a lot of these guys talk about how women check out emotionally before they check out physically from a relationship as if they have some kind of tactical advantage by that statement alone. Uh. No. They don't. Because the opposite is true for men. Most of us leave the relationship physically before we detach emotionally so there's that.

I also hear all this crap about how it's the woman who chooses who she has sex with as if that automatically grants her all the power of the universe. But it's the man who chooses who he has a relationship with, not her (remember that).

I see so many men here bash women because they cannot control their emotions and fall for the next Chad and are willing to blow up their families. Men do the same thing but it has nothing to do with the emotions, it's purely physical and they are willing to blow up their families just to get laid. No, not everybody is like this but in general this is how men and women operate.

Point being, stop making it seem like women are these astute creatures to be placed on a pedestal. So many times on here I see guys fall right into their traps with emotional manipulation and all these dumb tactics that they try to pull and the guys just keep falling for it. It's actually not that difficult. Ignore her. Stand your ground. Cut her off. She doesn't get to access your energy anymore unless it's to talk about children in common and that should only be reduced to logistics of who picks them up and drops them off. I swear these guys are making it more harder than it has to be.

I speak from personal experience of all of this too. Yes it hurt me when I discovered that she was having an affair at work, but I already knew what I had to do. I think I'm lucky and that it was already innate within me. I don't know. I didn't beg her, I didn't fight for her, in fact I told her she was cheap and not a prize and that her new dude could have her. Why? Because the minute she cheated, she lost her value to me. She was reduced. I wasn't worried about being alone for the rest of my life. If anything, I was worried that I wouldn't see my son again but lo and behold the court ruled in my favor and granted me 50% custody and the judge was a female and shouted down my ex and made her look like a clown.

My ex really came at me with a vengeance because I believe she wanted me to beg her and cry for her which I never did. I have too much pride for that s***. Besides, there's nothing to cry about. She lost her value. Did I cry for the destruction of my family, yes. I cried because my son was hurt by all of this. He was the true victim. Not one tear was ever for her. I can promise you that.

I don't get how men can get so worried about being alone and trying to figure out the dating thing right away. Life is so much bigger and grander than finding the love of your life. Love is just a small tiny fraction of what makes life so goddamn amazing. There is so much out there to look forward to, so many places I need to visit, so many versions of myself that I have yet to explore and become, so many goals to chase after. Women will come and go. I've always known that.

These days (as it always happens when you don't give a damn) I met a hot girl 10 years younger than me who I dated and I am now living with her after a year. Is this the love of my life? I don't know. I'm just enjoying it for what it is and I'm staying present. And yes, my ex-wife is super jealous and has even tried to get details off of me of my new life with this woman that I live with by asking my son all kinds of questions. The guy she left me for dumped her. He turned out to be an idiot. He stalks her. I think she even stalks him too, which just confirms that they both belong to each other because they are both clowns. Her health is also deteriorating that she has an ugly autoimmune disease that has reared its ugly head even more ever since the breakup.

As for me, well I'm just chillin. Hitting the gym. Continuing with my Muay Thai classes. I've been in martial arts since I was a kid. Muay Thai and hiking are my main hobbies. My girl comes along with me all the time on my hikes. She gets along with my 14-year-old son. Life is great! When you get out of your own way...

Immediate-Story2562 · 2026-03-04T04:44:23+00:00

So after all this, the question then becomes why are you not moving on?

muramx · 2026-03-04T04:12:24+00:00

Men choose family over happiness. Women choose happiness over family.

Women seem to move on faster. But the reality is they just detached from there partner and family well before theu announced their departure.

Rportilla · 2026-03-04T03:53:18+00:00

because the emotionally detached long long time ago

LoveCrispApples · 2026-03-04T02:40:16+00:00

Because we loved them more than they loved us. Our family meant everything.

Their "happiness" meant everything.

tonyway7293 · 2026-03-04T02:29:38+00:00

They detach from you and the marriage months or even years before they drop the D on you (and almost always have someone to monkey branch to).

It’s their selfish nature brother.

Title	How can they just move on?
Author	BlaqueBoye
Upvotes	12
Comments	12
Date	March 4, 2026 1:21 AM UTC (5 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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