I’m new

NothingIsEverEnough · 2021-02-19T18:46:18+00:00

Welcome. Many of us had incompatible spouses. But don’t give your spouse power over your life. You are still in control and the decisions are still yours.

patently_pleasant · 2021-02-19T19:46:52+00:00

We are happy to have you here! Obviously people don’t choose this community because it sounds fun, but there are a lot of nice people that reach out and are just generally extremely kind without seeking anything in return. When I first posted here I got multiple kind messages. Life is a winding road where you will always continue to meet new people and do new things. I hope this is a positive stop along your journey

Bipolar_investor · 2021-02-20T01:43:01+00:00

This is not about hating on the other and being blame free. Come on, we're all dudes here, leave that shit attitude to the ladies. We take over control of our lives, care for our children while reminder our ex partner they're not perfect. Men's live matter !

Meathead89gonzo · 2021-02-19T19:42:07+00:00

Sup brother! Self love is the key workout workout workout keep busy- self love man I can’t stress enough

CHEPO1966 · 2021-02-19T23:13:04+00:00

HELLO BROTHER, nowadays, it is happening even more, this of cheating women, who do not care about their family, they are only interested in satisfying their needs (according to them), normally, we can read here, first I phone, with password And without leaving his hand, according to them, he has to have privacy, hehe, really? I thought that when one got married, there were no secrets between them hee

The other thing that, it is said, my wife, is a good mother, heh or you see, really? can be a good mother, who begins an adventure, risking the safety of the child, (love, house and food), the furtures psychological consequences, living in a home destroyed by her, good mother, occupying the time going out and coming back late home, regardless of being with his son, (lost time) risking bringing an infection to his family.

For this reason, it is important to be a person with dignity, principles and values, to be able to transmit to our children, so that future generations will be different.

lucky brother

walkingdisaster4046 · 2021-02-20T03:34:47+00:00

The community is here for you. We are all in it or have lived through it. Focus on yourself first and then your son. If you’re not healthy and happy neither will he be. No one is perfect. Be kind to yourself. Learn from your mistakes and treat these challenges as growth opportunities. You will come out a stronger, better version of yourself and father to your son. You got this.

MartyMcFly7 · 2021-02-19T22:08:29+00:00

Greetings. Congrats on having a son! At least something good came out of it. :)

Third_Eye78 · 2021-02-20T00:39:57+00:00

You’ll be back in no time bro. Just starting my process and I have a 4 yr old which is where I focus my attention

RoddyChooch · 2021-02-20T02:50:35+00:00

Better now than 10 years from now

ziggypop365 · 2021-02-19T22:36:52+00:00

Me 2, have a 4-year-old daughter.

timascus · 2021-02-20T00:17:32+00:00

I’m sorry to see you here friend. I wish you the best

BobQuasit · 2021-02-20T04:55:25+00:00

Same here! Welcome.

thylacine2020 · 2021-02-20T13:02:22+00:00

You know what’s hard when you’re kicked out by your wife for a woman and you have 3 autistic children. That are hurting now There’s also her brother who had always disliked me what also is hard that she’s drinking two bottles of wine a day but she won’t admit she has a problem and she’s taken up smoking again The other thing that hurt is that you love that woman but it’s been ripped apart and now I’m homeless with a disability no money no proper bed my son wants to be with dad he’s 14
It’s god damn painful Sorry all but I have no friends they are miles away in other parts of Australia I miss them so bad Does it get any better or easier How do I deal with these thought Thanks for letting me join

LandOnMyFeet · 2021-02-20T13:46:43+00:00

The only reason you’re here is, like us, married the wrong woman. What’s important is you woke up. It took me 15 years to start to awaken and when I finally got help and became fully awake to my marital relationship issues I was like WTF!

Focus on self care.

capn_KC · 2021-02-20T13:53:30+00:00

All people in or out of relationships can learn from their experiences. They can grow and prepare for tomorrow. When my ex walked out, I started reading. I was desperate to save my marriage and read a dozen books, from Divorce Remedy, to the 5 Love Languages, and a bunch of others. I went to websites and listened to podcasts and soaked up as much relationship knowledge as I could. In the end, as much as I tried, she didn’t grow or have any interest in saving it so it failed. But I’ve personally grown and will be better at it when someone new comes along.

If you’re a man of Christian faith, I’d highly recommend Emerson Eggerichs’ “Love & Respect”. That book was a real eye opener.

SUEDE2BLACK · 2021-02-20T19:02:36+00:00

Welcome.Your not ruined you've just been forged by fire.

Your son is the next Generation teach him well.

I suggest checking out betterbachelor and mediocre reviews on Youtube.

She can take money through the courts but that's all. Get innovative and make more give her nothing else not your time energy nothing. Cut off all communication with her do your best by your son but don't let her wield the child as a weapon over you.

Stay strong.

Iqbal40862715 · 2021-02-20T22:55:41+00:00

Welcome!!! Know this is a place for like minded thinkers.

You are on the righteous road to freedom without her!

Mr_905 · 2021-02-21T14:57:22+00:00

Good morning

Outrageous_Bat9818 · 2021-02-21T16:03:51+00:00

Going through a similar issue. Anyone with experience in Pennsylvania?

33649 · 2021-02-21T22:00:57+00:00

Hello fellow brother, life will get better for the both of you. It’s going to take some time, but things will get better.

Title	I’m new
Author	eyoung_nd2004
Upvotes	40
Comments	25
Date	February 19, 2021 6:41 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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