I’ve finally hit my breaking point

SurvivorFamilyCourt · 2025-12-02T18:56:58+00:00

Always do what is best for your children, but most importantly do go through this alone. Don’t think it’s weak or embarrassing to seek mental health advice or treatment. Divorce is the toughest struggle in life. Any depressants, anti anxiety medicines, and other techniques have helped me tremendously. I was in a very bad place and slowly and with my own efforts got myself out of it. Medical and psychological help, being around people, and for me very important starting to attend a community church provides me with a support system and hope. It has made all the difference in my immense struggles. All though it I remained the best father I could and that is what is most important. Don’t give up. Find ways to get to the through the darkness to the light you deserve.

Aggravating_Chip3285 · 2025-11-26T20:06:57+00:00

My wife took my my kids and does not want to be around me for Thanksgiving. Hurts a lot .

SurvivorFamilyCourt · 2025-11-26T02:09:29+00:00

Have you suggested joint counseling? Maybe she needs psychiatric evaluation? These ideas would be a good idea for you as well, help you deal with the stress and uncertainty. It’s helped me tremendously. You can’t change anyone, but you can change and improve your reaction to the people around you.

R9ome · 2025-11-24T23:57:59+00:00

I felt this one to the bone. I also have 3 kids but one from a previous relationship. Luckily I'm divorced now and it has been a year of bliss in terms of peace of mind away from her. Knowing that she can go on one of her rants and I can disengage as she's now on the other end of the phone instead of in the same room as me. Has it been hard financially? Sure. Difficult with the kids? It has. Been worth it? Absolutely! Wish I had done it sooner but everything happens when it is meant to. I had a few months having fun on the dating apps and now settled down with an amazing woman.

Good luck man, you will break free from this.

Dadness0 · 2025-11-24T16:05:44+00:00

Something I want to stress to you and I hope you engrain it into your head. All women are like this. All relationships and marriages will eventually get to this point where the woman dominates the house and switches moods at any moment. Becoming a better partner, being more supportive, taking on more responsibility, none of that will fix anything.

I'm just telling you this, because when you eventually break things off with her, please God do not jump into another relationship. And right now while you're dealing with the bullshit, hopefully this helps you see you're not crazy, and that her attitude is not your fault nor responsibility.

People love to tout the line that this is a "modern woman" thing, but it's not. And that's not to say women are inherently bad either. They're just controlled by extremely volatile hormones, and there's really no helping it

UnableStranger590 · 2025-11-24T12:10:39+00:00

Yes absolutely. I wake up every morning and my stomach is in knots wondering what the hell is going to greet me when I join everyone for breakfast - Smiles? Cold stone silent treatment? Outright hostility? Who the fuck knows, but it keeps life interesting right? Fucking lol.

I'm a fucking nervous wreck. I'll be feeling reasonably good and she'll walk into the room, and her stern face, her manner, everything, it's enough to instantly suck the life out of me. You see, I know something is wrong, I've done something, but I dont know what, and I wont find out what it is until she decides it's time to blow.

She will of course say all our realtionship issues are because I'm emotinally distant, but when I try to expain that living on fucking eggshells and dealing with irrational childish sulks and inhuman rages over the past 10 years has simply drained the life out of me, she Darvos me and says I need to stop putting her down, blaming it all on her, being 'verbally aggressive' . It's crazy making. I honestly dont know my own mind anymore. I feel like I'm living in a Black Mirror episode directed by David Lynch.

I'm with you man - I also have 2 young kids who I love to the ends of the Earth, and it kills me to think what a divorce would do to them. I can't bear it. I also can't bear living like this any more. And then, one day she'll be nice and my stupid brain will go "Oh, it's not that bad, you see you dont have to break up the family and ruin your kids forever. It must be me that has something wrong with me!" Then her black cloud of dread will descend again, and I'm a anxious ball of stress and fear for god knows how long.

So yes, I concur - this is a complete mnindfuck.

upvotersfortruth · 2025-11-24T09:24:06+00:00

Gaslighting - an overused term that applies correctly to what she’s doing to you. If you can’t successfully engage with her verbally, then don’t argue. Just say “That’s incorrect.” “I disagree.” “That’s not the way I see it.” “That’s not true.” And don’t explain yourself, you’re not required to. Initially she will be very frustrated and escalate, hopefully not physically. Eventually she will realize that she can’t get her fix of whatever her brain receives by tying you up in knots anymore.

In the meantime, compartmentalize and take it one step at a time regarding the business/game of the divorce. Don’t jump to the conclusion that you’ll be destitute from the divorce. Talk to a lawyer, see what’s up. And if it turns out you will be in the poorhouse (doubtful) then it’s just what needs to happen for you to escape an early grave at the hands of this person.

A lot of us have dealt with a lot of the different brands of crazy. We’re here for you.

spelczech · 2025-11-24T08:57:27+00:00

Talk to a divorce lawyer. End of story.

RecduRecsu · 2025-11-24T08:40:55+00:00

Jesus and yeah I can relate. My partner is seriously disordered sometimes. She motherfucking projects it ALLLLLL on me too. She could kiss me in the morning and smile and I just fucking know that when she comes home later she is going to be an absolute asshole to me. Doesn't help these girls, the content they consume encourages their unqualified asses to psychoanalyze their partners every decision. The content always has one universal thing in common. They are the victim, whatever disappoints they have in life, they're due to their narcissistic or what have you spouse who is holding them back from their true potential. (As they lay on the couch scrolling mindlessly)

Then once they're 35+, their is a whole crowd of miserable divorced cathies who want every woman to join the club with them so that they can reinforce it was something systematic with men and not that they failed to be a quality partner. They'll hoot and holler about how great and free their life is now, post some yoga pictures with enlightened quotes and rabidly cheer on and encourage any doubts their married friends might be expressing about their own marriages.

Title	I’ve finally hit my breaking point
Author	Aggravating_Chip3285
Upvotes	27
Comments	29
Date	November 24, 2025 5:09 AM UTC (8 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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