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Disastrous_Age_1493 · 2024-11-12T19:00:23+00:00

I'm guessing you are going to get skewed answers based on the forum you posted this in. I'm guessing not too many happily married men here. That said, I'm not too happy right now.

MonarchistExtreme · 2024-11-12T18:25:00+00:00

I thought I was but looking back we were just two broken kids, from broken homes who found each other and had a powerful trauma bond. Once we matured the differences between us were vast. I handled it better than she did. To her, everything became a hill to die on. I surrendered on so many fronts but none of them buying me any relief.

She's gone, I'm thriving, she's now spiraling. It was a lot of work holding her world together but in the end I wasn't able to keep fitting the pieces back together. Now without me, she's living the life I feared she would. Our son refuses to even speak to her.

The screwed up part is I still feel like I could fix her even though I know there's no point in living your life for another person's pleasure. It's a hard role to cast aside.

djquikstop · 2024-11-12T13:00:47+00:00

I was and then we had a baby. I realized that what I thought was love was more obsession than love. The baby came and she wanted complete control. She didn't want to share power in raising our child and basically declared all out war on me. I left and she begged for me to come back for a year. I never did. We're going through the divorce process but I'm sad about it all. My child is going to suffer.

Expert-Raccoon6097 · 2024-11-11T17:23:18+00:00

I thought I was. Then she divorced me. Now I realize how toxic it was. I thank her everyday for the gift of freedom she gave me. I could have easily stayed stagnant in that relationship for the rest of my life.

jimsmythee · 2024-11-11T03:02:57+00:00

First marriage. Lasted 11 years. First 5 were ok. But then it went downhill with her addictions to pills and all of her disasters when she would crash her car.

I just hit 6th anniversary with Wife Version 2.0. Very happy.

Accomplished_Draw254 · 2024-11-11T03:01:44+00:00

I never realized how happy I was until she filed for divorce and all my happiness went away

Betteroffalone1111 · 2024-11-11T02:23:17+00:00

Yes for about 2 3 months then slowly my ex wife turned into the complete opposite vs when we were bf and gf

lewtus72 · 2024-11-11T00:42:27+00:00

Yes then no,

2nd one yes and then hell no

MR-Ozmidnight · 2024-11-11T00:31:06+00:00

My first marriage was not happy, but in my second marriage, I was happy all the time until she passed away about seven years ago. I still miss her, but I'm doing okay by myself at the moment.

bkozbi1 · 2024-11-10T23:59:19+00:00

Yeah. I was… I fucked it up though.

Agile_Bet6394 · 2024-11-10T23:30:12+00:00

I was until I got a read on how she lied.... Now I realize she was hardly ever honest

Glittering-Spell-446 · 2024-11-10T22:58:38+00:00

Happy is not the right word because happiness is an inside job. But am I my best self or fulfilled in this marriage ? Hell NO

techrmd3 · 2024-11-10T22:43:24+00:00

I am no longer happy in my marriage probably why I no longer have one

Telrom_1 · 2024-11-10T22:42:20+00:00

I loved being married. It was the lying, cheating and stealing I couldn’t stand!

Title	Men
Author	Time_Emu_4305
Upvotes	4
Comments	18
Date	November 10, 2024 10:39 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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