So sick of missing her.

Suspicious_Dot6179 · 2024-11-04T09:12:35+00:00

The literal only thing that helped me was meeting someone else. I was dead inside until that happened. And then my mind shifted to living in the present and the future. But you can't see a future in the past. Move on man, God is all over, and there are plans for u. Don't let an unfaithful woman be YOUR god

redditrock56 · 2024-11-04T05:13:52+00:00

Meanwhile, she's sucking and fucking some other dude. If you got hit by a bus tomorrow, she wouldn't know or care.

Move on, my dude.

CommercialConcern828 · 2024-11-04T03:41:48+00:00

4Billion chics out there.

Kind of lame to think there is a special one for you.

There are some bad ones and there are some good ones but there is No One. That is the soulmate myth and you need to dispel it.

Work on yourself. Maximize your Money, Mind and Muscles(the Tri Fecta).

And you will be able to get a Younger, Tigher & Hotter Version of her.

cactusfruit9 · 2024-11-04T01:56:25+00:00

Same here. But she remarried and moved abroad. I am dwelling in the past and trying ways to move on, but I am failing here too.

Battleneter · 2024-11-04T01:29:24+00:00

All past events exist only in your head when considering where you physically are in this moment, most if not all past events don't actually matter, its you that assigns the level of importance mentally.

You need to start actively monitoring your thoughts. When you catch yourself being sentimental you need to tell yourself off, and think about what you can do today and tomorrow to improve your life and or have some fun.

deadliftn · 2024-11-04T00:19:35+00:00

Try the audio book “letting go”. It’s the only one that resonated with me and got me multiple good days in a row.

Too_old_3456 · 2024-11-03T23:27:27+00:00

I was betrayed by her, stayed in the marriage another 10 years dealing with her betrayals, suspecting her of this and that and not trusting her, but holding on for dear life and trying to keep my family together. We’ve now been separated about 5 months and I find myself missing her on bad days. There were a lot of shit times during our marriage and a lot of good times too. Every day I see reminders of one of our inside jokes, of which there are probably thousands. It hurts that we can’t laugh at them together anymore. We had such a connection, but that doesn’t mean we should’ve been married. I think it will take me some time to get past it but I do believe I’ll have that connection again with someone. Just working on me right now (and my son).

passa117 · 2024-11-03T22:33:22+00:00

Whatever you do, under no circumstances should you let her know any of this.

What you are missing is an idealized version of her. As men, we love idealistically. It's quite pure. Women don't seem capable of loving us the same. It's at the heart of why we sacrifice so much for our families, and others, really.

That ideal you are thinking of is dead. It likely was never real on her end anyway. I don't have much for you, but you need to exorcise that particular demon as quickly as possible so you can move forward. There's an endless number of other amazing women out there. There's never a reason to be hung up on any one.

Hope you can figure it out.

Sinuks · 2024-11-03T21:50:18+00:00

Same, brother.

It hurts and while I miss her, I'm trying my best to heal for the kids. They're all that truly matter now.

Title	So sick of missing her.
Author	Still-Average9690
Upvotes	8
Comments	9
Date	November 3, 2024 8:21 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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