So my friend has trial for his divorce(no kids - 5-1/2 yrs) next week. His ex had an affair but is still going after all his marital savings/retirement because apparently she cant work anymore. She has an actual medical condition which is her reasoning for not working, but she most definitely can work. He has a TON of audio recordings(legal in his state) from the last few years of his marriage. His ex is an absolute crazy, controlling, manipulative narcissist, and im not exaggerating at all. He has proof of the emotional, mental, and sometimes physical abuse he put up with for years all the way until she had an affair. Besides a recording of her admitting she was physically abusive to him during their marriage, he has the clothing to prove it, though, the attorney doesnt want to include that either.

His lawyer was onboard with taking her down, and in the final hour, she is saying the opposite. She doesnt want to include any of the recordings that display abuse. The lawyers reasoning for that is that a) the judge wont care or wont even listen to them and b) the judge might use the recordings against HIM for "staging" the divorce years in advance and setting her up, which makes no sense because he has a rock solid reason for recording the arguments, and even has proof of that reason.

So he is going into trial already feeling defeated and hopeless. He feels like he's been setup to lose all this time. The question is: Are the lawyers reasons for not allowing the evidence valid? Besides the evidence, she isnt planning on bringing up any of it during trial. I know that the courts dont actually care about that stuff if kids arent involved, but will it help the final decision at all?? He's about to lose three quarters of a million dollars as it stands, even though he was the victim.