When did you know?

life-is-short- · 2023-11-30T03:27:40+00:00

Infidelity

jimsmythee · 2023-11-30T16:48:23+00:00

Breaking point. My now exwife, 5 years into our marriage got hooked on prescription drugs - narcotics, muscle relaxers, mood stabilizers, and sleeping pills. Never knew what to expect. We had to multiple times stop her from driving because she kept crashing. Rehab only worked for a little while before relapse after relapse.

The final straw was her mom, her and I all agreed that her mom would drive the kids to school. I had to be at work super early for a project. I thought everything was OK.

My exwife put the kids in the car and drove them to school. She was high as a kite and plowed into the back of someone's pickup truck at 40mph. Kids were banged up with bruises and black eyes. Then I found out she had been driving on a suspended license. She screamed at me to get her a rental car. I refused.

Then more sh1t got stirred. She got a DUI conviction and went to jail. As soon as she got out, I served her with divorce papers and got a very favorable divorce. Her? Not so much.

Embarrassed-Safe-670 · 2023-11-30T19:15:06+00:00

When my wife allowed my step daughter to cuss me out and said nothing. However, about a year later I inherited a house and quite a bit of money. Fortunately inheritance in Ohio is not marital property. I have an escape plan that is in motion as I write this.

Isthisthereddits · 2023-11-30T19:52:19+00:00

She had asked for a separation. Then said we could talk about getting back together in December (3 months). She said we needed to work on ourselves. She moved out, got an apartment, started talking with some guy or guys, and from her own admittance slept with someone less than 3 weeks later while I was working on myself.

I had almost a month of blaming myself for the collapse of my marriage before I found out that all our issues were due to her narcisistic personality/traits. She had next to no emotional intelligence and blamed/gaslighted me constantly. I learned about the infidelity when we had talked about discussing us in December. That boundary being crossed was enough for me to lay down my blame and seek out a lawyer.

She is not over our relationship, because she is apparently alone and constantly tries to pick fights with me. I think there is A LOT of regret on her end. I can only feel disgust for her and feel like this may be the life lesson she needs to move forward productively in life. If not at least I will keep my peace.

whiskey_piker · 2023-11-30T21:25:56+00:00

When she got back from a 3-day rejuvenation weekend to tell me she is better and within 10mins of walking in the door she starts raging and throws a potted plant at me. I recall thanking her for making my decision so easy.

Allegiance54 · 2023-11-30T04:40:35+00:00

When told least I can do is to pay all bills

ciscopimp2 · 2023-11-30T21:10:37+00:00

When she tried baiting me into hitting her--unsuccessfully, I might add. I can't be with someone like that. The way she upped the ante when I wouldn't hit her was my version on January 6. I don't ever want to witness what I saw on April 19 this year ever again from anyone!

The sad thing is that she is a mental health therapist who isn't over her first failed marriage where her first husband left her just like I ended up leaving her. You know you are in rarefied air when two different men file for divorce from the same woman. It would have been a third man, but he left her for another man while they were engaged, so that failed marriage didn't happen

She got a new man either while we were married or shortly after I filed for divorce. I know what her next man is in for, unfortunately for him, he doesn't.

All I can say is I'm happy I won't have to watch my back as long as someone else is occupying her time. As of November 16 2023, she is legally someone else's problem, praise God!!

ReadyPosition4015 · 2023-11-30T22:06:26+00:00

When she had me arrested with a false DV claim. Cops dont care, but as i was sitting in my new orange jumpsuit, i said yup im a doer! Im its been three years now and the divorce is still going and spent about $167k in lawyer fees. But im still glad i did it. I try not to talk to her but she has lied since day one in the relationship, now i m with someone i can actually believe.

Good_Dirt_9914 · 2023-11-30T11:11:10+00:00

It's like a terminal illness ,it's creeping on you slow & steady. You know it & the illness knows it too, but we have a hard time admitting it . Move on, bud ... stop looking behind .....

Title	When did you know?
Author	Snooze_World_Order
Upvotes	10
Comments	26
Date	November 30, 2023 1:38 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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