The contempt & hate from my STBXW is palpable, it fills the air. She ignores me emitting barely audible grunts every now and then. Our adolescent children are destroyed by the vitriol they see predicated by her.

She can’t be in the same room as me, can’t look at me or speak civilly to me. I have done nothing other than to question her out of control spending on herself and ask her to contribute financially.

She refused my requests for counselling and for her to “just be reasonable” for the sake of the children, she has just filed after 6 months of discussion with her narc sister and lawyers.

This week she was particularly bad and can’t even look in my direction, locking herself away in her room on her phone.

This without question will be a long road for me and my children, 2 to 3 years to get to court and possibly infinitely if I choose to delay. She is refusing mediation and wants her big day in court with expensive lawyers.

I’m not moving out, I’m not voluntarily leaving my children or my home that I solely paid for. If she wants out so bad she should go, we have another property she can move to. But she’s decided she wants me out. Maybe this is part of the game plan, make things so uncomfortable I run from her.

I’m hoping things thaw and she softens over time, as I dread to think of the long term implications of her hostility on our family life. What’s your opinion on this? Do things get easier, do they eventually give up on the campaign of hate?