Why do we like saving hoe and why do we get cheated on?

life-is-short- · 2023-08-23T03:46:41+00:00

My thought was if she was broken and I helped her she will respect that. But most important part that I missed is was why she has been broken. When I researched it it was infidelity in last marriage. So here you go.

One_Cartographer_465 · 2023-08-23T14:17:13+00:00

My belief:

Men believe women are like classic cars, but they are not. When I fix up my car I like to be seen driving it around town. When I fix it, what I fix stays fixed. lastly, when I go to the garage each morning to turn it on, it is the same car I parked last night.

SomeFaithlessness339 · 2023-08-23T12:57:01+00:00

Don’t make women your main focus . You are your main focus. Women should be something you have.

Reflog1791 · 2023-08-23T19:13:07+00:00

It has happened to millions of men since the beginning of time. Don’t take it personally but do learn a lesson. It’s known as the red pill, a taboo subject that is basically as radioactive as Qanon in polite conversation. Don’t talk about it with women.

Basically from the 10000 foot view we want a freak in the sheets and a lady on the streets. They want a steady beta for family stuff and a tough salt of the earth guy for fun.

Don’t be the steady beta family man. You’ll find that the successful married men you know who have good marriages are the leaders of their household - not being a servant in exchange for once a month starfish nookie.

Good luck. It’s a tough pill to swallow. Once seen it cannot be unseen. Some say ignorance on these matters is bliss and they may be right.

Old-Macaroon8148 · 2023-08-23T10:21:45+00:00

Because men like to solve problems and fix things, it’s in our DNA. This means we are easy targets especially for women.

Anyone who is broken is looking for somebody to fix their problems. At first this can appear as genuine affection, love, desire, lust etc. That blinds us to what is really going on because we think that person truly cares for us and we fall in love. Once the problems are fixed (or close) we meet the real person.

Physical-Aside-5273 · 2023-08-23T14:24:58+00:00

For me it was easier because I thought that's all I was good enough to get. To me, the really beautiful and healthy women with good families were out of reach.

captainchippsixx · 2023-08-23T14:36:59+00:00

They cheat for resources and resourced entertainment. They chest because nice guys /white nights are stupid and trust them.
Cheaters keep cheating. It’s on the cheater not you. But you enable it by being a doormat or simp. You have say that isn’t going to fly and walk away.

DatabaseSpace · 2023-08-23T23:51:54+00:00

I think the dating pool may cost as much as a real pool. I’m out for 9 months to a year.

WestCoastThing · 2023-08-24T03:32:11+00:00

Stop thinking with the wrong head and you'll steer clear of most of the nut jobs. Commit to no more marriage or entanglement of assets. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound or hundreds of thousands of dollars of cure.

silmarp · 2023-08-25T18:00:39+00:00

That's something you should be addressing with the therapist. I mean, Or if you don't like therapists you should think deeply about it.

As per example, there is a high chance people who have grown up in abusive homes to seek for abusive partners, and people who have grown with alcoholic parents to either distance themselves from alcohol forever or seek someone who is an alcoholic to try and heal them from the alcohol because they couldn't save their parents so they think they can save other people.

There are a lot of studies regarding this instance in psychology and a therapist might help you free yourself from some thing from your past.

Or sometimes we are just overconfident and we think we can do what others can't and life will kick our asses just to prove us wrong lol.

Title	Why do we like saving hoe and why do we get cheated on?
Author	AlucardJess
Upvotes	10
Comments	14
Date	August 23, 2023 3:33 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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