About Single mothers

xvszero · 2021-12-12T19:04:27+00:00

Most of them are "pro-life" too, so you know. Have the kid, and then we will brand you as unlovable because of it. I don't know that we need to find any deep reasons for why they think this way, these dudes are just sexually jealous and a woman with a kid shows a very visible sign of a sexuality that did not involve them personally. Also, since none of them have any idea what love actually is, and they're just in it for fun, a kid complicates things too much. Don't get me wrong, there are lots of valid reasons to hesitate to date a partner (of any gender) who has a child... if you have a serious relationship, it's going to be a key factor in the relationship eventually... but they don't need to be demonized either.

I know there are statistics about children without a father or mother figure not growing up well, but gay couples do just fine.... It makes no sense....

I looked into the stats once, mostly to debunk some complete bullshit heteronormative argument Jordan Peterson was making, and as it turns out... children of gay male couples tend to do fine, children of gay female couples tend to struggle more. MRAs would love to jump on this and be like ha ha, women suck, told you! But then when you dive even deeper into it, it turns out... it's mostly related to economics. Two male parents tend to earn much more than two female parents, and children in financially stable households tend to do better than children in financially struggling households. Shocker.

The solution would be to guarantee women have access to the same career opportunities as men, aren't penalized for having children, etc. but society won't do that, so. Here we are.

RealRussShackleford · 2021-12-12T14:07:11+00:00

“What’s the point of denigrating the single mother?” Revenge. Pretty much all of these RP content creators have had messy divorces and feel like they’ve been screwed by the family court system. They often also can’t move on from the relationship either, so they want to try to make sure the women leaving those relationships can never move on either.

BMXTKD · 2021-12-12T16:00:54+00:00

You meet one single mother, you meet one single mother. The single mother could have been conned by a sweet talking manipulator and rightfully kicked that sleazy bum to the curb.

Or that single mother might have come from a culture where toxic masculinity was praised, and she wanted to have the baby of the big buck daddy.

That's where dating comes in. You sift through the chaff, and you get the wheat. I wouldn't say no to a single mom. I would try to go on a few dates with her and see what her personality is like.

When dating a single mom vs a childless woman, the rules remain the same: Be picky as all hell. Don't take shit from anyone. And if you see manipulation, set up boundaries.

vcreativ · 2021-12-12T17:39:36+00:00

There are many reasons why women become single mothers. And it's not like all of them are unlikeable.

So to outright say single mothers aren't dateable is just classic over generalisation.

Is it a woman's fault if her husband died serving, say?

It really depends on why he left, and who she is.

I don't think any dating should be done lightly in any regard, but even more so once kids are involved.

qclady · 2021-12-13T00:16:35+00:00

Do single mothers even want them?

powerlifting_daily · 2021-12-12T14:10:24+00:00

I have a solution: stop breeding. Allow both genders to get voluntarily sterilized via medical procedure at 18.

The point is that when we look at the types of people who are in jail because they committed heinous crimes, chances are they:

Have a personality disorder
Have a substance abuse issue
come from broken/ dysfunctional families

It would be a lot better if we as a society stopped providing breeding grounds for antisocial individuals to develop in. Let's provide mental health counseling to low income people. Let's stop treating substance abuse as a criminal justice issue, and more as a public health issue. Let's not create anymore broken families with missing father figures. We could decrease crime without punishing anyone. We would have to lock less people into cages and I think that's something we should strive for as a society.

vptran31 · 2021-12-12T21:56:58+00:00

i opt for the route that gives me the highest responsibility and sacrifice.

and that's helping her reconcile with the father of her child(ren) . it's a unrealistic model few suggest, but a child deserves its father and a mother deserves a family

Rad1Red · 2021-12-12T15:42:54+00:00

Single mothers are the proof women can survive without redpillers. That and raise a child. Many also have not been left, but have left, which makes them more likely to see through redpillers sh*t.

They must be punished as swiftly and harshly as possible. They must be banished to the outskirts of society. And people must know that they are "incapable parents" and "driving the crime rates up", otherwise what would be the societal purpose of abusive drones like redpillers?

Carloverguy20 · 2021-12-13T02:49:42+00:00

If anyone should be to blame it's the deadbeat dads. Redpillers will find anyway to villanize women.

Some single mothers are some of the best people alive, some are very hardworking, having a job to support a family, not all single mothers are leechers who went after the bad boy.

Im already knowing im going to be called a simp for this.

Mh882130 · 2021-12-13T07:44:04+00:00

There are great single parent people out there and not great single parent people out there. It depends who you are attracting and how much you have observed or know of their situation.

I know some great single parents and I also know some who need to have their children put in foster care as they clearly only have their own interest or their partners not their child.

And that’s the main point to consider because how someone treats their children is a reflection of how they treat you.

My ex and I whom I have kids with because of the above have made the decision that our partners will have no say in our kids upbringing.

If that makes us single forever long term so be it.

I had great step parents but way too many as my Mom had many partners in her hound days.

My ex had horrible experiences with step parents.

So we just cut them out of the equation and tell our long term partners yes we have kids but you will either most likely never see them or you will be known as my life partner and not their step mother or father. If they have kids then we can work something out but o won’t be considering myself as a step father. That way if something happens it’s not as hard as the kids

This does not mean I couldn’t live or treat their kids equally as you can do that regardless of being a partner. It just means the kids don’t view me as a father but more so a close family friend.

scott195 · 2021-12-12T20:18:44+00:00

I get the very strong feeling this isn't an ex red pill sub... and more of an i hate red pill sub.

Children from single parents statistically do worse in most arenas of life.

Children need fathers and mothers. Even if it's part time split custody is enough. But a woman just getting laid using a man for sperm for a baby is a problem. I know multiple women who have done it. Both my sisters said if they couldn't get a guy they'd just have a baby even if it's a sperm doner, i think that's horrible it's not the best interest for the child it's selfish. I Want a baby to feel loved so i will

It is a problem, red pill irrelivent.

thom92Pf3105 · 2021-12-12T12:27:39+00:00

My dad Married a single mother with a 7 y Old boy from an abusive relationship. I was born from that marrige. They were all three alcohol abusers and had narccesistic behavior. I was diagnosed with CPTSD as 26 y Old. So i had been going around undiagnosed for that Long. It was chaotic af.

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The-Guy-In-Grey · 2021-12-12T15:33:47+00:00

Red pill creators push the blame from the man on to the woman, it's always her fault. The man never assumes responsibility for his actions?, and in eyes of F&F they don't have to because they're "high value".

Both men and women have a phase where they want the not so better option, women want a "chad", men want a pornstar with the triple Ds long blonde hair and an ass the size of Jupiter. So for the blame to be solely on the women for her choice is narcissistic.

Logically their no reason to denigrate single mothers, but red pillers see it as an opportunity to further tear women down for their choices.

I've seen how many children turned out from being raised by single mothers (I'm one of them) and most of them turned out pretty well. You had a few that didn't want to be saved and they fell through the cracks. You argue that children with both parents have also fell through the cracks.

There's nothing wrong with single mothers as a whole. Because lets face, fathers wouldn't leave their children with them in the place since red pillers believe fathers make better parent figures anyway.

russophillia232 · 2021-12-15T03:23:54+00:00

What confuses me is two guys I followed who said this are divorced and had young children when they started their RP "journey". How are they different than single mothers? Because they only have custody on the weekends or holidays?

Mh882130 · 2021-12-18T04:01:07+00:00

They project their own traumatic experiences into single mothers as a form of generalizing trauma which is similar to generalizing in classical conditioning.

That said single parents do have a harder time in life. And taking one as a partner has a ton more risks and not just financially.

The biggest risk being single parents can’t fully be themselves as they tend to be more need deficient and as result act out of necessity not want and desire.

But this is not the single parents sole fault.

There many things at play here.

But yes I agree single parents should not be demonized. Though you do need to take precautions as with any potential partner and vet them properly as like any partner highly negative people can lead you to ruin.

Big_Rise_3876 · 2023-01-26T19:42:32+00:00

Because single mothers are not capable of loving you in a romantic way. All they care about is how you can provide for her kids

Title	About Single mothers
Author	ET-Osmio-180599
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Date	December 12, 2021 11:21 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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