Advice on relationship with redpill guy

CoffeeGainsDrums · 2024-09-05T20:11:48+00:00

Do you want to date a man-child or a man? If the former, stay, and if the latter, leave. Pretty simple.

Justwannaread3 · 2024-09-05T20:08:49+00:00

Your partner doesn’t respect women. He says you’re an “exception” — but what about the women in your life? What about if you had a daughter?

Do you and they deserve to have someone around them who hates women?

Personal_Dirt3089 · 2024-09-05T20:27:07+00:00

Part of growing up is learning to get over generational baggage. If he is out fighting his parents' gender wars forever, that is no way to live. How old are you two?

treatment-resistant- · 2024-09-05T20:06:23+00:00

Is there a question you wanted advice on? Your boyfriend sounds unpleasant and your relationship does not sound good. If I were you I would end the relationship.

psyduck5647 · 2024-09-05T20:53:04+00:00

He will eventually hold the same attitude towards you as he holds towards other women unless something changes. People can fake it in relationships to stay with someone but eventually the mask will drop. Unless he is willing to change you need leave. This is not an ideology or a philosophical tradition that can be engaged with as if it had value or was on an equal playing field. What he believes is on the same level as facism, white supremacy, you name it. You are less than human to him. There is no way to reason with or make excuses for that. I’m being blunt because this seems to be a situation that warrants it.

elmaldeojo · 2024-09-05T20:24:11+00:00

Advice on what, exactly? #

If he's into red-pill stuff it means that he fundamentally believes himself to be superior to you - that's one of the core tenets of the ideology, no? You can infer a lot of things just from that alone. You can try to explain his shitty behavior on past trauma, but past trauma can never justify it.

Beguile_ · 2024-09-05T22:47:58+00:00

This doesn't seem like a happy ending for you and you must sense that or why post here?

floracalendula · 2024-09-05T22:14:36+00:00

Run.

That's it, that's the whole advice. Run.

kingpinkatya · 2024-09-06T14:09:38+00:00

Any man who is approaching you early on into dating with a sob story is using it as a primer to justify future abuse towards you.

That way you think, "Oh no, he's only treating me this way bc his inner child/past trauma isn't healed."

This should give you the ick immediately. Any man who resents women also resents you and men who resent women are dangerous to women. You are not an exception.

xvszero · 2024-09-05T23:09:29+00:00

The only advice is: don't.

watsonyrmind · 2024-09-05T22:41:46+00:00

Girl I dated a man with a fraction of the hangups your man has and he became impossible to talk to. We broke up because he had a problem with me not accepting his shitty views. Yours will go the same way if not worse, trust me, do not bother delaying the inevitable.

If he wants to change he can do so and prove to you he has changed. But until then, live your life.

Think-Fan-2858 · 2024-09-05T21:00:38+00:00

my boyfriend is really into rp stuff

girl get out

Carloverguy20 · 2024-09-05T22:12:41+00:00

Your bf is misogynistic. If he says that you are the exception, than he is a certified misogynist.

blaze420x · 2024-09-06T00:35:06+00:00

If he’s into RP content, END the relationship, block him on everything, and move on with your life. You can’t help him, fix him, change him, or any of that. He’s been sucked into a movement who’s most famous members are known for laughing about getting women pregnant and convincing them to have abortions, simulated SA’ing a female content creator, conning family members out of money, and at least 2 are facing charges for human trafficking and having sex with minors.

If he cared about you at all, he wouldn’t be watching it. It’s just time to be done. Don’t waste years of your life finding out the hard way that your relationship ended the instant he took the pill.

P.S. - If you choose to break it off, and I hope you do, try to do it somewhere away from home, have at least one witness on stand by, and make sure you have your own ride home.

AssistTemporary8422 · 2024-09-06T08:14:39+00:00

Lets assume you want to stay with him. Instead of fighting with him about his red pill beliefs mention that you disagree, avoid discussing these topics, or ask open ended questions when he does bring up something red pill to shift the dynamic from you convincing him to him convincing you. If he acts inappropriately because of his red pill beliefs express you don't share his views, he needs to accept and respect that, and not violate your boundaries.

Fuzzherp · 2024-09-06T13:07:40+00:00

The good times will be good, but the bad times will be traumatizing at worst and resentment creating at best.
It doesn’t take much toxicity to ruin an otherwise good connection.
If he’s gaslighting you about this, and you’re an “exception” I fear it’s only going to take one percieved misstep on your part to change that dynamic and make you the target of his ire for women.
Please leave before you are too entangled.

cantanoope · 2024-09-06T13:42:25+00:00

Girl, you are not an exception; you are next.

Icy-Month-1749 · 2024-09-05T20:05:20+00:00

I think this is the last one.. I went to medical school and I met him there and right now I am gaining more money than him. He had some issues and he always tell me how much he appreciates how I stayed when he was at his lowest and that I am excepcional things like that... I believe he loves me but those ideas scare me. He often commentsn on ideas as dicaprio being super happy with his 19 year old girlfriend and comments like that and since the last things andrew tate got accused of with 15 year olds I thought he would change his mind but he defends him saying it is fake. Do you think those ideas would affect me in the future? He wants to get married but I am scared of his views on woman. My dad wanted to take our hoyse from us and my mom never asked a penny from him and that is why I guess I look for security.

Icy-Month-1749 · 2024-09-05T19:58:47+00:00

I was not able to finish so I continue here. Before he used to tell me things like woman age like milk and men like wine etc. When I confront him he turns things around and tells me I dont like andrew tate becase I have ssues with masculine due to me having a bad father. The thing is I dont think I do. My father left is and my family managed because my mom was a teacher. I decided whatever happened I would go to school because I was scared of being abandoned and not having anywere to go and my mothers work saved us. Later she than married someone who was amazing to me and my brother. I had an amazing brother and stepfather and I dont believe I have issues with the masculine as he says. I respect man and even feel ok with sumission and those ideas. I believe we are differentn(man and woman).

Title	Advice on relationship with redpill guy
Author	Icy-Month-1749
Upvotes	7
Comments	45
Date	September 5, 2024 7:53 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/ExRedPill
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