I'm obsessed with looking younger

Personal_Dirt3089 · 2026-02-11T07:25:57+00:00

First: Stop consuming redpill content. It exacerbates depression in men too. It's made to be shocking and depressing on purpose to keep people coming back.

Second: See the first one.

Third: Executive dysfunction might be the term you are looking for, and you might have heard your therapist use that term. It's not easy. Every friend of mine with depression that got into some kind of habit of physical activity seemed to do better afterwards.

Fourth: It's ok to look 24 and older. You look like a young adult. You don't really want to be around 24 year old guys that want exclusively women that look way younger than that.

Fifth: A common thing in people with depression is thinking in extremes. Cath yourself when you find yourself doing that.

Rozenheg · 2026-02-11T10:12:13+00:00

It sounds kind of almost like a form of OCD, maybe? As a woman in her fifties, I get plenty of interest from men, both attraction based and serious intention based. I might look a little younger than I am, but more like early or mid fourties’, not early twenties. And I’m honest about my age.

Talk to your therapist about what’s not working in therapy. If they can’t come up with some better way to support you, feel free to look for different kind of therapy.

Don’t only try to counteract the beliefs either. That may be part of it, but it can be worthwhile to look at what pain or coping mechanism is underneath this anxiety. Sometimes we avoid one kind of pain with another.

senorbuzz · 2026-02-11T04:27:27+00:00

First of all, you need to talk to your doctor and try a different antidepressant. Whatever you’re on now isn’t cutting it.

Secondly, stop posting your photos to receive external validation. People irl don’t pick apart your looks the way people online do, and they definitely don’t judge your looks the way your own brain does.

Are there any women you admire? Celebrities or leaders or women in your life?

watsername · 2026-02-11T03:03:51+00:00

The beauty standards your chasing were established by men who are attracted to underage girls. Remind yourself of that every time you feel the need to be perceived as “young”. You’re not meant to be compared to teenagers, you’re a woman and women are inherently shaped differently than children.

Antique-Juice9179 · 2026-02-11T05:21:50+00:00

I’d recommend being around couples and men who have healthy mindsets. Hearing things from men, unprompted, that contradicts red pill will help a lot imo.

louisat89 · 2026-02-11T04:29:51+00:00

I agree with others, get your meds looked at. But also you recognise you have had your thinking changed by red pill stuff, so you need to replace that thinking with something else. Feminist literature. Bell Hooks. The Beauty Myth. Etc. read and read and research the opposite to what has caused this.

JLSAAAA · 2026-02-11T16:22:12+00:00

I’m sorry you feel this way. As a woman, the biggest lie we’ve been told is that our value is in our youth and beauty. This may be true for some men, but those are men you don’t want anything to do with anyway. You are so much more than your looks. Your looks are not what make you a valuable human.

No-Ad8127 · 2026-02-12T03:38:46+00:00

You have to realize that the concept of the “wall” was made by men who have no chance of meeting the women they want, aka “304s”.

They’ll neg on every woman who doesn’t have a partner and call them “used up whores”, and then they turn around and praise the men who got the exact same type of woman on their arm.

They’re not serious, and the modest women that they claim to like, they don’t even pick them at the end of the day. There’s a ton of “pick me” women that surround these types of men. Do any of them get picked?

At the end of the day, red pill is just a pick up artist schtick. Don’t waste your life on this. Women get male attention at every age, even when they’re senile. And plus, I think that you would like to wind up being single and with cats rather than be with a redpill man. That is one of the worst fates that you can have, and being single isn’t one of them.

PutsWomenOnPedestal · 2026-02-12T02:50:52+00:00

Please focus on your mental and physical wellbeing and stop worrying about what men think of you. For most women (and men) the best years of their lives are in their forties and fifties. And personally I think women in their forties and fifties look the hottest

IndependentCow4407 · 2026-02-11T07:24:57+00:00

This is a stupid idea that was popularised by a very under educated man. Most people grow to understand certain ages that you would almost look the same through your 20s to your late 30s. Do not bother yourself with such extreme ideologies.

meleyys · 2026-02-12T06:23:03+00:00

I don't know if this helps, but my boyfriend literally prefers older women, with no apparent upper limit. It's not like people will stop being interested in you after you hit a specific age.

comfortbadger · 2026-03-18T21:02:37+00:00

Maybe try Cognitive Behaviour Therapy.

Ancient_Internal7797 · 2026-02-11T08:00:44+00:00

Why? How old is he?

Title	I'm obsessed with looking younger
Author	snaeya
Upvotes	8
Comments	15
Date	February 11, 2026 2:51 AM UTC (5 months ago)
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