Is it normal to get no attention or comments on your looks as a guy?

DearElise · 2026-05-10T23:35:01+00:00

I used to compliment men without a second thought and would tell them their dressing looked nice, but then they mistook it for interest and thought I was leading them on, getting angry. So yeah. It’s normal to get no comments. Women just trying to protect themselves. And I say this without any bitterness at all, it’s just matter of factly not worth risking trouble these days when young men misinterpret the smallest things.

Why don’t you ask your friends which celebrity or public figure you most closely resemble? Maybe that can give you an idea of your attractiveness rather than a subjective rating. Your focus on physical attractiveness and assumption that that’s the main reason you’re not attracting women is RP mentality though. Maybe you should spend your energy looking good for yourself and spend your energy developing other traits. If not you’re going to be very angry at women when they reject you after you put in inordinate amount of effort into physical attractiveness.

mikey_weasel · 2026-05-11T00:41:39+00:00

In general I find as a man I get compliments from

Other men. This depends on your friend group and how open they are to supporting each other
Women who think I'm "Safe to compliment". These are generally friends, and aquaintances when they know I have a partner already. Unfortunately enough guys take a compliment from a woman as an expression of interest and sometimes get quite creepy about it. I've had a two different female friends decide to "compliment more random guys" and then later say "oh it ended up poorly I'm not doing this anymore"

Butterscotchpills · 2026-05-11T04:08:21+00:00

I realized that men will immediately think I’m into them and develop a crush on me once I compliment them. So I avoid it. I know it stems from men getting their 2 compliments a year max. It sucks that I can’t just casually say something nice as I can do with women but I can see why it happens.

Personal_Dirt3089 · 2026-05-10T22:38:08+00:00

In general, due to a constantly online culture, younger people, especially women, are way less open to interacting with strangers than they used to be. Don't take it personally.

There was a time in which we did not have access to 24/7 clickbait articles in our pocket and that time is gone now. You don't even have to doomscroll, your news feed will feed you dooming clickbait articles unless you manually turn that off and not everyone knows how to turn that off. You can imagine what that does to a person's social skills and feelings of safety.

Afraid_Fondant_7903 · 2026-05-10T23:09:20+00:00

1 of 2 things is happening : a lot of women don’t talk to guys anymore and vise versa, or u aren’t very good looking and it could rlly be either

Strict_Idea6925 · 2026-05-11T01:59:29+00:00

its normal most guys dont get any comments on looks

AssistTemporary8422 · 2026-05-10T21:55:19+00:00

Its just nature of things that women tend to get more attention than men do. Men often deal with a lack of attention while women deal with excessive unwanted sometimes dangerous attention. Even those attractive guys who are getting a lot of attention are often unhappy that they are only getting it because of how they look not who they are on the inside. And both attractive men and women lose that attention as they age and often really miss it. The solution is to not be so driven by the shallow validation of total strangers and instead find deep fulfilling friendships and focus on our passions and values.

reddit_user42252 · 2026-05-11T00:03:59+00:00

I say thats pretty normal. Unless you're very handsome or famous you wont get that much attention as a guy.

NintenJoo · 2026-05-10T23:41:44+00:00

Stop looking for outside validation in your life.

It doesn’t MAKE you feel ugly and undesirable.

Work on not basing your self worth on other people and take control of your emotions and outlook on life.

eruptingmoltenlava · 2026-05-10T22:45:17+00:00

Paying this much attention to your appearance is considered undignified and unmanly in our culture. Try to develop other interests.

DavosBillionaire · 2026-05-10T22:55:11+00:00

over my lifetime I have gotten far more comments on my looks from men. I can only recall one time when I took my shirt off, my friend's girlfriend said something like "why can't you look like that" that's the closest ever.

Even my wife will refuse to give me compliments (because of her upbringing)

yloved · 2026-05-10T23:30:02+00:00

Do you also not get any compliments at all?

xvszero · 2026-05-11T01:07:18+00:00

More or less.

Ranziel · 2026-05-11T12:19:00+00:00

The most normal thing in the world. You can't expect people to compliment you out of the blue as a man.

VigilanteJusticia · 2026-05-12T04:34:17+00:00

Unfortunately it’s normal. The times I’ve gotten them have felt nice though.

Competitive-Gap-3433 · 2026-05-12T20:20:05+00:00

I'm average-looking, so I haven't received many compliments about being handsome. But people have frequently complimented me on my style and my achievements, even if they weren't great. You could focus more on those things.

Odd_Bid2744 · 2026-05-13T19:28:20+00:00

I'm a pretty woman and I don't even get comments (unless I put my face out there online fishing for compliments which I am not willing to do) I don't base my value on how many compliments I get nor do I seek validation for my looks because I'd rather people see me for my personality, character and values.

I think in today's day and age it is very common to feel isolated and disconnected from others, but it's not necessarily a reflection of us as people but the ills of society at large and the evil that is social media (I know I'm using said evil social media)

freaklikeme263 · 2026-05-19T23:38:31+00:00

It’s pretty normal! I don’t comment too many guys on their looks so they don’t think I’m hitting on them, unless we’re friends. I’m a lot more likely to compliment someone I know has self esteem issues than your average guy. It’s just not something woman think about as far as I know.

I’ve told guys I’ve been with (like 54 prolly), plus hot ones I haven’t) that they’re really hot. I always say this to guys I’m with (because it’s true!) and have asked a fair number if they get told they’re really hot a lot (because I’m a girl so I do). They all say no! Which shocks me. Like all of them do except this one kid Connor who looks like a model. Shit even this guy Michael who looks like a model told me he never gets hit on or complimented! It’s crazy to me because obv I’m allowed to say it if we’re sleeping together and I’m just very verbal at expressing attraction to men I’m with and literally every single one but Connor says people do not just stop them on the street to tell them they’re hot and in fact they do not hear it elsewhere! That’s my experience and the experience of about 40 guys so if only 1 out of 40 gets compliments (adding you it’d be 1 out of 41) it sounds like you’re in the norm and it really has nothing to do with your appearance because I promise you a lot of these guys are attractive. I gather I’m in the minority of expressing attraction so verbally, and even then I only do it when I’m in bed/ have been in bed/ or will be in bed with a man. Pretty crazy.

Also, even if guys are complimented it’s FAR LESS than woman are, that’s for sure.

anomalocarus · 2026-05-10T21:47:10+00:00

No offesne but are you good-looking or just average? People only get compliments if there's something notable or special about them.

Title	Is it normal to get no attention or comments on your looks as a guy?
Author	Vereity123
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Date	May 10, 2026 8:35 PM UTC (2 months ago)
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