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https://www.reddit.com/r/exredpill/s/5KN6St2dsC

I made a post about cold approaching and it seems like it's a no go for most "non-redpill" normal people. For most people they sort of fall into a community of sorts and from there they fall into a relationship. Really that's how its working for most people on here.

So I've done many hobbies in the past. Nothing clicked or got me any social feedback. Everyone just does the activity then leaves. That's it. There is no bonding or community building with anyone there. Since graduating university I haven't made a single friend let alone get into a relationship through these so called activities. It's just not a thing that happens like Redditors are saying it does.

Whenever I talked to others in these activities it barely goes beyond surface level or beyond the activity itself l. So if I try to push into deeper layers beyond say soccer nobody really responds or cares to reflect that energy back (cause I guess most people already have an established friend group and don't have the mental bandwidth). Also you only had so much time to talk to begin with because as soon as the activity was done people would just get up and try to leave immediately nobody is just lingering around bantering which is really what allows bonding. Whenever I would try to suggest an outing after the activity like lunch it got awkward and nobody really joined except one or two guys here and there. Then there's also this "taboo " about asking out someone in the activity you're doing cause your gonna see them again and it'll just make it awkward for them. So then that becomes just as "inappropriate" as cold approach cause now you've also made her uncomfortable and she may not enjoy that activity as much and she'll see you again.

And then to begin with the vast majority of activities are already 70%+ single dudes trying to hit on the same 1-2 women there (which we just established was a no go) so your odds are crap as well. So there's really no good answer here and this whole "go out and be yourself and the right people will come" people are suggesting is complete vague horseshit to me. It breaks down at the very obvious mechanical level when you walk through it step by step. Your gonna make some people uncomfortable and break some social rules but that's the only way dating works. Too bad. Take the plunge and offend others in the moment slightly.

People are saying I'm commodizing this but really the ONLY things that have worked are spamming approaches in nightclubs and swiping thousands of times on online dating (and even that took insane amounts of efforts which makes me question if it worth it).

I fail to find anyone really able to break down how it happened for them besides them just falling into it and suggesting you will as well when clearly this isn't the case.