I am a reformed (reforming) redpiller, and I am attempting to put my life back together. It all started off with Andrew Tate and JWaller, I did not really fall into their trap of dating multiple women, but I did fall for shame-based motivation and how a woman should behave in a relationship with you. That led to me finding a subreddit called mrp (I won’t name them but those who know will know) which I stupidly followed to try and make my current relationship be how I wanted. It was all about me, and I convinced myself if I couldnt control who I was with, I was less of a man. I really didn’t value who I was with at the time, and she left me.

I’m doing significantly better due to the help of a self-help group. However, I still struggle with truly trusting women, I just had a conversation with my friend going through a breakup where I realized I was feeding him horrible information about what happened, stemming from how I view women and what her words “must have meant”.

Does anyone else struggle with this? My group mainly focuses on self-worth and not seeking external validation, not rebuilding trust in women. Does anyone have good resources?