50/50 is a financial plan, not a relationship!

Sage_Planter · 2020-10-01T14:43:58+00:00

His last message is what's most important: as long as you (as a couple) are doing what works for you, you're doing something right.

The problem is there are countless stories of men taking advantage of or abusing their women financially. On relationship subs, there's often stories of women stressed to the brim about finances because "he demands 50/50 even though he makes 3x what I do." There's no perfect system for dealing with finances in a relationship, but there's a lot of terrible systems. Never stop negotiating for a system that works for you. Equitable =\= equal.

Pasdepromesses · 2020-10-01T15:42:41+00:00

Only male advice I listen to is Derrick.

But the girl was right, if I’m paying 50% I’m a roommate. Tried it twice before and nothing good came out of it.

Mindeska · 2020-10-01T18:40:23+00:00

I never saw it like this in my twenties but it's so true. Going 50/50 penalises the poorer partner enormously and literally makes them subsidise the richer partner. I rented a one-bed with an ex in my twenties and we split the rent 50/50, despite the fact he earned more. We were both somewhat broke, but it was over 50% of my take home pay and only around 35% of his. He couldn't have got a one-bed or studio to himself for that money without me - he would only have been able to afford a room in a shared place. So I was subsidising him and he then had more disposable income. Did he spend that on me, or even us? No. Everything else we did together was also 50/50, so I got to spend a higher proportion of my income on absolutely everything and had nothing at the end of the month, while he kept money for doing things HE wanted to do. He didn't care that I had no disposable income for hobbies, self care or anything nice.

Once you realise how ridiculously unfair it is to go 50/50 when there's an income disparity, you can't unsee it.

OTD-esi · 2020-10-01T14:45:40+00:00

LOVE DERRICK JAXN! He's like the only male dating expert I will ever follow!

throwaway23004345 · 2020-10-01T16:27:20+00:00

If I want to find a roommate, I’d just find a random woman off of Craig’s list 😂

youdipthong · 2020-10-01T16:17:32+00:00

All I hear is facts 💅✨

siberiansummer · 2020-10-01T19:05:29+00:00

He is incredible. Everything he says is spot on. I sure hope he lives by what he preaches

ps9939 · 2020-10-01T16:39:13+00:00

I never thought of it like this until I've been reading similar advice on this sub. It makes SO much SENSE! Major mindset change for me!

AnniaT · 2020-10-01T17:00:36+00:00

I also like this video by him:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qPUlcCLmNMo

seawitchbitch · 2020-10-01T20:52:03+00:00

This man brings so much joy and hope for men-kind to my heart

dollymyfolly · 2020-10-01T22:24:31+00:00

I love derrick, I think I’ve watched all his videos. He just has no tolerance for LVM bullshit

2020-10-02T00:00:06+00:00

Some men pay 0% 😬 #hobosexuals

2020-10-02T02:51:16+00:00

I’ve literally just found this guys Instagram and I’ve been binge watching all his videos. Holy shit. When people say FDS is a fluke - how can it be a fluke when there are CLEARLY MEN who exemplify and LIVE BY FDS Standards!!!!!!

For the male lurkers - if you ain’t him, we don’t want you. Gtfo.

aloneinthefight · 2020-10-01T16:20:39+00:00

I love him and his male perspective!

TexiMcCrae · 2020-10-01T23:29:05+00:00

.... he cute and FDS approved... but... dang he’s good lookin

jayohday · 2020-10-02T05:28:13+00:00

Ok but where are these guys who are making these videos??? CALL ME, BROTHERS 😂

Repulsive_Incident27 · 2020-10-02T00:13:26+00:00

I didn’t know love at first sight was real 🥰

jk! He is HVM though

Title	50/50 is a financial plan, not a relationship!
Author	BellaMob
Upvotes	199
Comments	25
Date	October 1, 2020 2:35 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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