Usually after a date, my old pickme habit would be to start brainstorming ways to change myself to impress a guy more.

For example, did he like joking around but not more serious topics? If so I would make an adjustment and try to make more jokes the next time.

Another example: Did he like my taste in music, especially when I mentioned XYZ bands? I would start listening to more of those band’s albums in preparation for the next conversation.

But today I went on a date and afterwards all I felt was an urge to embody myself more. To be more confident in myself. And then it hit me: this guy had enjoyed hearing my genuine thoughts and feelings about things. He tuned in the most when I was talking about hobbies and interests that I genuinely enjoyed.

It was a real eureka moment for me. Usually my brain goes into overdrive after a date and I spend wayyy too much time psychoanalyzing everything a guy liked or didn’t like about me. But a HVM will make you like yourself more. He will force you to actually value YOUR OWN PERSONALITY, and not put on some cool girl fantasy act that a scrote would want.