I want to make it clear that I am not asking for changes in the subreddit just for a small minority of users here, as I understand that most of the users are here are from western nations or from incredibly westernized nations.

see the world over is diverse and there's a lot of good and bad everywhere but certain cultures are just at a level where most people in the west can't even comprehend, I'd say 90% of the advice and rhetoric would get me killed in my home country of Pakistan, In our nations you have to take shit from men otherwise you'll end up beaten and killed and this expends even to diaspora communities, I've known girls whose parents would beat their own daughter's until they had broken teeth and would send them to Islamic schools if they ever caught holding hands with a boy that wasn't a relative of theirs

Marriage for women and girls can literally mean either salvation or a type of hell you can't imagine. the options a woman will be limited depending on your social class, religion and sect, certain families will allow you a choice between only your first cousins, others either your extended family or tribal ethnic group or someone who is the same racial group and religious sect as you are, ultimately its not even your decision bur rather your family's

my grandfather was the one selected my husband btw, I didn't even know anything about him, ultimately it worked out and my husband was a very good man but It's still super messed up that 2 old men just decided that their grandkids should marry and no one could oppose them cause they were the senior males in their families, even they many of family members disliked I was marrying a Pashtun

now some might say why even get married in this system? just swear off marriage and men, well you have to get married cause your family will force you, not with passive-aggressive comments or calling you a hag, no instead they will beat you, starve you and send you to a religious school(it has happened to at least one of my cousins that I know off)

Proto-Female Dating Strategy and divestment does exist for women in these countries and communities, its not about choosing which male partner(and his family) would be the best but which would be the least awful however as of now it's disorganized and every group is basically starting from scratch, I'd like to change that

I have written some of my own guides for specifically South-Asian Muslim women

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but I think some more engagement from women from other non-western countries would help a lot, cause I'm pretty sure the situation in Kenya, while still being different from the west would still be radically different then Pakistan