From time to time we dream about a romance that will sweep us of our feet.Sometimes this can come in the way of our goals and our happiness. here are some of my tips on how to be happy single and not need a man.

  1. ASK YOURSELF WHY YOU WANT A MAN - if your answer is it will make you more happy. then try to keep yourself more happy. If your answer is you want a relationship because your bored. Find something to keep yourself occupied. try to asses why u feel the need of being in a relationship and then solve the issue.
  2. GIVE YOURSELF ALL THE THINGS YOU EXPECT FROM A MAN- things like affection,attention,compliments,validations are things we expect in a relationship. what if we could give these things to ourself ?. then we would not necessarily need a man. give yourself attention. take yourself out on dates. buy yourself flowers.Make yourself happy.
  3. TO FEEL LESS LONELY- spend time with your friends. socialise more. Don stay locked up in your room or on your phone all day.spend time with your family. being around people makes us less lonely and keeps our spirits up.
  4. IF YOU WATCH TOO MANY ROMANTIC MOVIES,TV SHOWS OR READ ROMANTIC NOVELS STOP- the media and entertainment we consume can influence our perception of reality more then we think. watching to many romantic movies can make us want to be in love. I have felt the same way. So i stopped watching romantic movies to make myself stop thinking about romance. Trust me i loved those movies. But after some time i stopped thinking about romance alot.
  5. KEEP YOURSELF BUSY- this may be obvious to some but this tip works wonders. I wasn't very focused on my goals before. I felt always bored and in the need of something that would keep me occupied. I thought a relationship would do that. I was wrong . A relationship will not solve your problems.After the demise of a relationship i was in and thought would last. I realised keeping myself busy not only made me be more productive but it kept me occupied and i did not think much about needing a man
  6. TRY TO BE SATISFIED WITH YOUR LIFE- for a long time i felt my life was not something i could control. I felt that my emotions wasn't something i could respond o in a calm ,collected manner.Soon I realised i was not only wrong but also wasting time doing nothing but spiraling with my thoughts.I then decided that happiness was a choice , which i wanted to make.I started doing things that made me happy. I made the choice to have more fun.I was way more content then when i was dating some boy.
  7. MAKE BONDS WITH YOUR GIRLFRIENDS- as women we have this innate need to form deep bonds. to make long lasting connections. above everything. Instead of wasting your precious energy on boys who might not even talk to after 8 months I would suggest to make connections with our women. They are way more emotionally available. Give the best advice and are always there to lend a ear when you want to rant about some coworker who was rude. Female friendships not only last longer then relationships . Friendships are also a source of support and sometimes way more loving then the romantic relations we shared.