IF HE WON’T COMMIT LEAVE HIM

blk_grl_lvl_up · 2020-05-12T02:39:37+00:00

Facts! Men know within 6 months if they want to be with you forever. Don’t settle for being a forever GF if that’s not what you want. Don’t beg these men to take you seriously. You shouldn’t have to if he’s the right one.

circescircus · 2020-05-12T02:46:30+00:00

Committing doesn't mean that much though. He can "commit" to you because he knows realistically that you're the best he can do, but will act contemptuously towards you in marriage. Men can commit for a million bad reasons, they are also good at pretending to commit to you, to get what they want from you.

Avoiding being a 7 year forever girlfriend is like passing FDS kindergarten, it doesn't mean you're "winning" just because he's doing all the motions. I'm not saying this to be a bummer, I just want to remind women here that if you want a relationship where you're not made into a total ass, you have to think bigger/more long-term than just a wedding, a ring, etc. Tons of women get clowned AFTER the guy "commits". Very common with abusive guys in particular.

I have a feeling that if the pickme well dries up, if the septic tank that is OLD continues to slide further down into shit, that men will future fake, pretend to commit, a lot more than they do presently/in the last few years. I sense social changes coming, and part of that will mean scrotes changing their strategy to exploit women for their own gain.

girludontbringhome · 2020-05-12T06:39:39+00:00

I mean it’s good to have realistic expectations too...Of course her ending the 7 year relationship was the right call, but it’s very unlikely that the next guy you’ll date will be a HVM or that you will even date anyone just 6 months after a breakup. That’s why, whatever you do, has to be for your own happiness. I dated my best friend and he broke up with me 3-4 months later. I was single for more than 1.5 years, heartbroken for most of it, but really worked on myself during that time. I then met a guy and thought I vetted him carefully so we ended up in a relationship but then he ended up being LVM and our relationship ended after just 3-4 months as well. I really really thought that after 1.5 years of being completely single, and learning from my past mistakes, the next guy I would find would be “The One.” Nope, life does not work that way and now I know not to be so naive thinking that my next relationship will be with a HVM. Now I actively try to identify any voids in my life when I feel lonely being single and fill those voids with constructive things. I do things for my happiness not because I think it’s going to get me a man. I suggest other women do the same.

millionssomething · 2020-05-12T03:39:19+00:00

It makes me laugh to think about that noncommittal loser sitting at home probably posting about "the girl who got away" and how she's already moved on.

0kfornow · 2020-05-12T14:16:50+00:00

Yeah when you stop moving forward youre not standing still youre going backwards. If he wont commit the relationship is doomed. Dont grow older waiting for him to change. He wont.

Lamastu5 · 2020-05-12T09:28:24+00:00

I like this song

Chobyo · 2020-05-12T16:20:14+00:00

Amen so true

2020-05-13T01:44:47+00:00

Don’t let your boyfriend keep you from your husband.

Title	IF HE WON’T COMMIT LEAVE HIM
Author	Iceyboo
Upvotes	700
Comments	29
Date	May 12, 2020 2:21 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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