I'll never understand with all pick me's how American males whine so much about American women

No-Village-3946 · 2022-03-20T19:41:56+00:00

In my culture, the men love to rip American women, whether it's the American white women they deem "easy" but use for effortless sex before they're ready (or pressured) for marriage or the Americanized women from their homeland that are not subservient like the women back home. Americanized men from my culture (esp. ones that "rediscover" religion, or rather become newly enamored with it after realizing the control it allows them over women) think they're doing something to the Americanized women by threatening to marry a "good, pure" woman (read: young, non-English speaking, virginal, naive, and grew up in a 3rd world country) from some village. They know that woman and her whole family will treat him like a prize and bow at his feet because he's an American citizen. He knows he's a loser here in the States, unattractive, not particularly successful, shit personality on top of all that, but in the land of the blind, the one-eyed man is king. They literally want to be worshipped and unlike American women, the women from back home will do it. He will take her away from her homeland, her community and bring her to America where she knows nobody but him and has no skills or resources to do anything but sit in his house and service his needs. These men think the women in America are the problem, because, by extension, they think "Western ideology" or "liberalism" is to blame for all the world's moral ills as if they're so God-fearing and good-hearted themselves. Most of these men also blame "Western feminism" too. Anything but themselves. The men from my culture that were born and raised in America stay ranting about how American women and Americanized women from their culture have sex, have jobs, don't cover up, don't want to cook/clean, etc. but give themselves a pass for drinking, doing drugs, and having premarital sex themselves, or at least before the social and familial pressure to get married becomes overwhelming. Then all of a sudden, "there's no quality women in the West." I wonder what they see when they look in the mirror.

Sage_Planter · 2022-03-20T21:22:15+00:00

The problem is that LVM whine about the women they can't get and they also complain about the women that they feel are beneath them. These men don't respect women who throw themselves at them and bend over backwards for them, so they'll always see flaws in those women. And instead of focusing on realistic dating options, they think they deserve super models who fuck like porn stars and want to be SAHMs who are independently wealthy to contribute 50/50.

I used to work with a man in his 40s who was social with friends of mine. He was by all accounts exceptionally average, and he probably would have made a good partner to someone. The problem was that he found an endless list of (seriously minor) flaws in the women his age, and he was only interested in dating models in their 20s who were not interested in him. So he'd complain about the women he could get, and then he'd complain about the women he couldn't get.

adamantelk · 2022-03-20T20:06:15+00:00

You can bet a considerable amount of money on the fact that if an American man refuses to date American women and only dates women from third-world countries, he will be abusive. Even with all the pickmeishas here in the United States, such men are not satisfied with them and instead want someone they can have complete control over.

It is never about "Asian women are so blank, much blank than American women", or "Eastern European women are so blank, much more blank than American women", etc.

It is always about a man wanting to treat a woman like a toy, like an object, like a thing. And to abuse her without reservation.

Lundy Bancroft talks about this desire of power over another human being as one of the signature moves of a potential abuser. They don't love their victims, they love the feeling of control and power.

Zestyclose-Jeweler85 · 2022-03-20T19:59:52+00:00

I've lived most of my adult life abroad (focused on the Middle East, Asia, and Europe) and see this kind of stuff ALL the time.

Basically we call them LBHs (Losers Back Home). They usually do not have the skills, personality, finances, etc to find a partner back home and/or they believe certain stereotypes about women from various countries.

For example, so many American men came to Japan to find a woman who would meet their Hentai bangmaid dreams. Minimal effort is put into to learn the language, culture, sociatial expectations, etc, but the complaints from these men sure come easy.

This type of stereotyping also happens to women living abroad with men from the country viewing "Western" women as behaving a certain way (thanks stereotypes /s). Personally, I found this to be the worst in the Middle East as many men thought I would have sex with them at the drop of a hat.

MsXxSelfDestructxX · 2022-03-20T21:04:25+00:00

I had a ex scrote/friend that I always wondered why he was so mad and angry, moody typical scrote behavior. His main complaint was that he wasn't getting enough attention, insatiable amounts of neediness, always wanted women's attention at all hours but it had to be good attention. The women had to be like happy clapping seals and provide good conversation for him to not be moody. Even needy of his moms attention. I'm not perfect either, I was pickme that time and stuck around against my better judgement. The weird part is this scrote had no problems getting dates or girlfriends so I was puzzled like this dude is getting more attention from women than I've ever gotten attention from anyone ever and he's still unhappy. After that shituation broke my rose tinted lens, I found FDS and when I'd go on dates, turns out a lot of LVM are like that.

edwardianemerald · 2022-03-20T21:04:52+00:00

There are no more rites of passage to masculine adulthood in America. American men don't have to get jobs, work outdoors, provide for their families....this creates generations of overgrown children (whiners). American men don't know what it feels like to lose and they don't know what it feels like to win. So nothing ever feels "good enough" to them. Porn and media consumption (videogames etc) are attempts to fill this void but it's much deeper than that.

pygmymetal · 2022-03-20T23:00:38+00:00

I agree. I was just thinking that a reason for all the wild behavior is that people think they’re starring in a movie where they’re the main character! Dude, you’re just background noise.

modernmedusaa · 2022-03-20T21:18:01+00:00

It just shows you how repulsive their personalities must be

Its the same in the UK and elsewhere in Europe, tons of extremely tolerant pick mes who are more than willing to lower their standards

So I do not feel any sympathy for men complaining as they have to be god awful intolerable to struggle in this day and age

These are the types of men who heavily overestimate their value and have sky high standards- as in they want a fictional dream girl bang maid who is leagues above them, worships the ground he walks on and smiles in his face whilst he cheats

The types of men claiming they want a wife YET serial cheating in 5 months and wondering why no one of value wants to chase them

The type who enjoy sabotaging their relationships, antagonizing their partners to death and draining all their energy

Then turn around get angry and play victim when their partner is forced to leave due to them humiliating them and draining them of any will to try

IndependenceOwn4323 · 2022-03-20T19:56:43+00:00

A similar thing happens in my culture. The men back home fear American diaspora women because they claim that the women are known to report men. What this tells me is "I want to abuse a woman without fear of being reported"

They believe that since we are American women we are less likely to take shit which might be true since American women have more freedom than women in Somalia, maybe more liberal in terms of dress and ideas etc

Very common for diaspora men to go back home and take advantage of women in poverty and leave her there or already have a wife in the states and still marry back home

Lol they always say "never marry a woman in America"

philosopherofsex · 2022-03-20T20:10:55+00:00

Because hating women is the entire point.

Colour_riot · 2022-03-21T14:50:46+00:00

It's not just American males. It's loser males of every culture. The rural Asian ones just don't know how to use social media yet.

To these creatures, they can't be losers because THEY.ARE.MALE. They have a penis! They might even have a bit of money in the bank or occasionally a six-pack.

Therefore the world is bad because how dare they not get handed everything on a silver platter. But the only people they dare to take their anger out on are women, not the ~~"Chads"~~ good looking or successful men that they foam at the mouth when they see

cicerii · 2022-03-22T05:48:00+00:00

I find it funny when American guys complain about American women not being feminine when they are not known as embodying the archetype of masculinity anywhere that I’ve heard of.

Title	I'll never understand with all pick me's how American males whine so much about American women
Author	slayeroftruth
Upvotes	682
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Date	March 20, 2022 7:14 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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