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Muffy217 · 2020-10-20T01:27:26+00:00

A list of the things that I have attempted to fix: alcoholism, lying, cheating, obesity, not completing a college degree. The number of those things that I actually fixed: zero. 🤡 🤡

xoMorgan · 2020-10-20T02:04:19+00:00

I tried fixing my obese ex by helping him go hiking, teaching him about calorie intake, telling him not to eat certain food. They will never change! His family even thought I was his personal dietician and would ask me why he hadn't lost weight. Eventually, he told me he would never lose weight unless I moved in with him and cooked all his meals. 🤡🤡🤡

royaldetour · 2020-10-20T00:46:48+00:00

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Boiling_Rock · 2020-10-20T01:46:37+00:00

OR! That someone might come to realize that the time they are willing to invest into fixing you is a high risk, low profit venture and they would getter return on the money time represents by investing it into education, independence and coming to the final conclusion that ... damn, singlehood is amazing when you've got money to spend on things that mean something to you.

Shinygoldendragonfly · 2020-10-20T05:24:27+00:00

No matter how awful you think you are atleast you don't have the mindset of this dude.

2020-10-20T06:26:03+00:00

Male privilege right there.

fim_de_semana · 2020-10-20T08:40:56+00:00

Barb the builder never again.

daisy_0720 · 2020-10-20T19:09:28+00:00

I once tried to reform a fuckboy. That went about as well as you might expect.

Waste-Win · 2020-10-20T15:34:59+00:00

What about calling a therapist and fixing yourself?

2020-10-20T17:06:10+00:00

Only a man would write this 🙄

Bitemebitch00 · 2020-10-21T03:58:32+00:00

THEY KNOW.

aliengames666 · 2020-10-20T06:50:49+00:00

I had a boyfriend who was a raging alcoholic and I told him I would leave him if he didn’t stop drinking and he actually stopped and legitimately got (and stayed) sober. But, he was doing it for himself as much as he was doing it for me: he was tired of being ashamed all the time. I was also tired of being the girlfriend of someone who got arrested all the time for his drinking. I think being honest with your partner (and yourself) is super important about how much you’re willing to tolerate. I was serious too... I was ready to walk.

But, obviously, no one will change if they benefit from not changing, and most importantly, if they don’t want to. And if you love someone who is doing something self destructive who won’t change it’s so fucking agonizing. No one can “fix” anyone, and it’s not our job as women to “fix” and sacrifice and build a world around serving men and solving their problem. I wish that we weren’t so often forced into this role, it’s such bullshit.

I’m usually on the end where people try to fix me and it’s stupid and exhausting.

2020-10-20T07:50:41+00:00

Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

2020-10-20T10:33:11+00:00

One word: Pathetic!

Ironicbanana14 · 2020-10-21T15:31:15+00:00

My bf white knights me so hard. He has made so much progress over the years but jesus, sometimes he cant help me and he gets upset about it.

Title	No.
Author	eveninghope
Upvotes	574
Comments	25
Date	October 20, 2020 12:39 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/jeets5/no/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/no.1194217 https://theredarchive.com/post/1194217

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