They don’t respect you when you settle for them, because even they know they are not the man they can be

GlitteryMoss · 2021-11-21T16:43:34+00:00

They don't even respect themselves and know they are shite, so if you settle for them, they will lose respect for you 'because you have shite standards'.

Also, believe every man who says you are too good for them or that they do not deserve you. Run for the hills.

carmen_sandiegos_hat · 2021-11-21T18:47:40+00:00

I told a neighbor (we're not dating) in casual conversation that I am used to getting treated very well and that people buy me gifts, take me out for fun, and more. Didn't see him for a while and he came back to tell me later that he thought about what I said and realized that he could do more in his relationships with friends and family. Now he is spending more time with them and doing more. If he wants to, he will.

No amount of screaming or begging will change a man.

to_learn_to_fly · 2021-11-21T13:29:13+00:00

THIS. When you settle, you're doing yourself a big disservice. Not because you'll necessarily be unhappy - I know how unconditionally accepting and perfectly happy in an imperfect relationship a woman can be. But because what OP said. Men are acutely aware of their shortcomings and will subconsciously hate a woman who chooses to accept these. And then they will pedestalise women with higher standards who rightfully reject them.

hensbanex · 2021-11-21T13:18:30+00:00

it’s crazy how much they resent us and make their failures women’s problem instead of just taking responsibility for even one thing in their lives lol.

Healingirl · 2021-11-21T13:10:44+00:00

100% true because you're not even encouraging them to be the best version of themselves by settling and everyone, men and women, wants someone who pushes them to be better.

whyanythingcanhappen · 2021-11-21T13:20:03+00:00

Agree, there’s no incentive to improve themselves and do better if they already have a quality woman at home who puts up with their lame bullshit.

One of my friends just got out of a ten year long marriage to a LVM, and the whole time they were together she was always pushing him to take care of himself. Not just things like going to the gym, but more basic shit like showering regularly and taking walks instead of playing video games all day. When she finally dumped him he suddenly did a 180 to try to win her back.

He was capable the whole time, but just didn’t have any incentive to do better while she was willing to stick around for free.

lucidlotus · 2021-11-21T23:29:03+00:00

Yes...and then when you leave they play the game of trying to get an ego boost by winning you back. They can’t decide

Title	They don’t respect you when you settle for them, because even they know they are not the man they can be
Author	cicerii
Upvotes	426
Comments	18
Date	November 21, 2021 12:22 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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