This!!!

daisyinflux · 2020-12-04T02:12:13+00:00

I just want to switch this up because being alone isn’t worse than indentured servitude. 😂

vmuzondi · 2020-12-04T02:39:21+00:00

Honestly. I think it’s so hard to get out of the pickme mindset because those women eventually do get picked...but by the worst men. Healthy men run and let them down soft and then the avoidants who aren’t abusive ghost or breadcrumb them. The ones who pick them are the abusive types who love having someone to constantly validate their existence.

The girls who have been picked have boyfriends with skidmarks in their underwear and have never properly taken care of themselves in their lives. They’re also the ones who get mad and nitpick at women with HVM boyfriends that dote on them by telling everyone they’re not “materialistic” so they don’t need thoughtful gifts or gestures.

giftofnocondemnation · 2020-12-04T04:00:01+00:00

Being murdered by a raging narc man is the worse case scenario. Also being a shadow of your former self, being miserable in a constant state of cognitive dissonance because of the gaslighting narc

LevelTurbulent · 2020-12-04T05:42:40+00:00

It's true but I think it's reversed. Ending up alone after doing all that is better. That's the best case scenario for that.

I got dumped after 20 years of marriage. It sucks and it hurts but if he had kept lying and kept me in the dark, I'd still be stuck in that. That's a horrifying thought. I'm 40 and basically having to start over but it's better than being a servant for longer or having to go through this at 60, god forbid.

sstena · 2020-12-04T06:15:51+00:00

Worst case you end up getting yourself or your children killed. Ending up alone is far from the worst.

thowawaywookie · 2020-12-04T10:03:00+00:00

Settling for a nvm is the worst thing a woman can do. They ruin your life in so many ways. Emotional, physical, financial and so on.

melonmagellan · 2020-12-04T08:17:29+00:00

And get called names, degraded, and sexually coherced to top it all off.

dutchie19 · 2020-12-05T00:44:14+00:00

My entire marriage was indentured servitude to a man with untreated ADD. Cooking, Cleaning, Laundry, actual job, 3 kids. Even cleaned up his cum soaked socks because he watched porn and got off BEFORE I could even get home from work, at midnight. I can't believe I fought for that. 15 years before I couldn't handle it any more. Be careful what you wish for, and what you enable to happen.

lakerz_girl · 2020-12-04T20:15:49+00:00

Thanks to our childhood for this pick-me shit we are left with smh! But i'm committed to doing ALL the work so I can be fulfilled inside-out with myself and pick the right person for me. Thank you for this reminder!

MagnfiqueMaleficent · 2020-12-05T02:59:47+00:00

Ugh. I feel like worst case scenario is that a lifetime of stress of being with an LVM or NVM will cause the body to be in a constant state of stress, causing the immune system to go into hyper overdrive and you’ll end up with MS or cancer or ALS... the list of risks is long.

lonechronicler · 2020-12-04T09:25:07+00:00

I'd switch the worst and best scenarios too.

elementalvirago · 2020-12-04T13:00:54+00:00

Louder for the people in the back!

Title	This!!!
Author	Crystal403
Upvotes	1198
Comments	21
Date	December 4, 2020 1:56 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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