Ugh

Platipus6 · 2021-05-29T22:39:43+00:00

My narc dad let me get all the way to the register with a beautiful $100 prom dress, then said no, to watch my face crumble, because I'd been the centre of the attention in the store, not him as "cool dad" on a daddy-daughter day 🤡

Then he blew thousands in a bad investment to a neighbour.

engineergorl · 2021-05-29T18:10:15+00:00

Circumstances can change abruptly, like a sudden medical emergency, getting laid off from your job, a recession like 2008, or a pandemic. If these dads had adequate finances when these girls were born, then I can understand things out of their control negatively impacting their finances. If this was the case, then I would expect HVM to be striving to improve the family’s situation. We simply don’t know their circumstances just from watching videos. Now, if they were broke when they had a kid, I’m partially in agreement. HVM will do their best to prevent “accidents” and will want to wait to have kids until they can provide for them or their career is in an upward trajectory to be able to support kids in the near future. LVM will have kids without any thought about the kids’ needs because LVM give no shits and they know they can push 100% of the responsibility onto their baby mommas.

TopJunket7249 · 2021-05-29T20:10:45+00:00

I saw the cake video and thought the same thing. While I totally understand financial difficulty, coming from a very, very poor immigrant family and having nothing when I was growing-up, it doesn’t cost much to google a cake recipe and buy some ingredients, or go to the supermarket and buy a small cake for $10. If it mattered to the father to get a cake, he would have thought ahead and budgeted for it. Also, I only ever see videos with men and their kids, predominately daughters and how the father worked so hard/or didn’t have anything and spent his last dollar. I don’t see women, probably because for most mothers, they don’t need the social media attention and virtue signaling, as they plan ahead and budget and save constantly—putting others ahead of them. Also, why take a video and post it for the whole world to see? I am always suspicious of those.

her-vagesty · 2021-05-29T22:35:55+00:00

My dad scolded me for wanting better things than we had. Our neighbours were quite wealthy (and luckily loved me and gave me beautiful jewelry, paid for some of my college, took me out to eat all the time, basically have me a taste for wealth my family didn't have). One day when I was about nine I said "I wish we had a car like theirs" and I guess it hurt my dad's ego (he wasn't a bad dad, but we were a poor family) and he snapped and said "why do you always want what other people have, why can't you be happy with what you've got?" And back then I felt very selfish and awful. But now I'm like "shit has that incident made me unmotivated to do better for myself? Am I afraid to strive for better because I should be happy with what I have?"

rednopal · 2021-05-29T17:59:36+00:00

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fireforestfairy · 2021-05-29T17:50:02+00:00

Oh yes. I know plenty of working class kids who dislike having poor parents. As we say in Chinese parents need to pass a license exam before they have kids.

ItLou · 2021-05-29T23:37:44+00:00

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ItLou · 2021-05-30T00:41:46+00:00

"financial trouble should be the least of the kids' worries."

Yeah, you're right. Unfortunately, some people just don't have a say in that. Please, just say you hate poor people & move on.

This is an absolute reach.

Title	Ugh
Author	Crafty_Collar8183
Upvotes	171
Comments	17
Date	May 29, 2021 4:02 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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