Very telling vetting strategy

lifesok · 2021-11-26T16:57:23+00:00

Playing games is an amazing vetting strategy. It definitely brings out positive and negative traits. I always try to get a game in by 2nd or 3rd date.

Ana_jp · 2021-11-26T19:58:17+00:00

And if he throws his controller in rage, RUN. Run like the fucking wind.

namhars · 2021-11-26T21:55:12+00:00

Tell me you play pikachu

Here’s a fun study for you:

Insights into Sexism: Male Status and Performance Moderates Female-Directed Hostile and Amicable Behaviour

https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0131613

TLDR: “Low-status males that have the most to lose due to a hierarchical reconfiguration are responding to the threat female competitors pose," the researchers, from the University of New South Wales and the Miami University in Ohio, write. "High-status males with the least to fear were more positive."

Sound familiar?

BBQCoolRanchQueen · 2021-11-26T18:10:45+00:00

That's an awesome strategy! I'm a casual gamer myself, and reactions are very telling. I got my (so far HVM) husband to play Interloper on The Long Dark (notoriously punishing difficulty level). Zero craps given when he repeatedly loses in the first day. Our neighbour, however, every day he's screaming into his monitor over video games intermittently over 10 plus hours. He's single (big surprise, I know 🤣).

munakhtyler · 2021-11-26T16:43:05+00:00

Clearly men are sore losers, and also sore winners.

Which makes men losers

Platipus6 · 2021-11-26T21:49:12+00:00

This reminds me of the tiktok where a couple is dancing together and she busts out some awesome moves. His face drops and he concludes that she's showing off to humiliate him, because that's what he'd do. LVM are incredibly spiteful and petty and enjoy crushing other people with no awareness of interpersonal relations for bonding and making other people feel good. Unless it's them, they expect other people to lose to make them feel good.

For all their talk of bros bonding by bantering, roasting and joking, being around this negativity is extremely toxic. Honestly, it's trauma bonding. Being humiliated and demeaned in the hierarchy, and going back for more to try to claw your way out from the bottom. Lots of men are surprised how nice it is being around women because of the gaslighting that women are the catty, toxic ones.

Awesome strategy. Men who compete nastily are terrible partners. I only date cooperative men.

katiekat0214 · 2021-11-26T17:59:11+00:00

High school/early college, my first boyfriend claimed he was going to teach me to play pool. I can't remember how many games we actually played, but it wasn't many at all. And one time he just ran the entire table! I was supposed to watch and learn, I guess? Not how it works with me; I need hands-on practice. Watching someone do something that they've done for years, and are very good at, doesn't help me as a beginner. I told him this, and he seemed put out that I wasn't more... appreciative, I guess? Not there to coo over your skills; I'm here to learn my own skills.

First husband welcomed a lot of dudes into our house to play this complex war-recreation game. He had made a sand table and re-created it every so often so they could re-enact wargames. Honestly the table and the attention he put into it was a work of art. But what chapped my ass was, random dude comes in, doesn't know anything about it, he's immediately welcomed in and coached along. I said I wanted to play.... here, go read a book. OH OK, you don't actually want me to play. I asked LVX why he welcomed men and told me to go read a book and got some mumbly blah blah whatever.

Excellent vetting strategy. Highly recommend. No more EVER being an appreciative female audience. I want IN ON THE ACTION, or I walk away.

HighPriestess31 · 2021-11-26T23:03:53+00:00

Very true. I also find liking "feminine" games is a good shit test. If you tell them you like Stardew Valley or Animal Crossing, and they start criticizing you for not playing "real games" or calling you a casual, that's a big red flag.

coolestgirlyoueverme · 2021-11-26T18:09:55+00:00

This is low key brilliant

xpressurself111 · 2021-11-26T20:37:49+00:00

I once raced my father in Mario Kart. He usually wins. I won 3 races in a row and he WALKED OUT OF MY HOUSE…

PinkBlair99 · 2021-11-26T16:29:18+00:00

Damn, how many guys you played this game with? 😅😅

bleda_princezna · 2021-11-26T20:24:14+00:00

This is a really good idea. I don't play video games, but this could be used for activities that result in someone winning and losing as well. Board games, bowling etc.

IAteTheDragon · 2021-11-27T09:36:58+00:00

I am really fcking good at video games, I love to play when I have some time off. I have had guys say they love gaming, invite me and get beaten on an on again and then they magically forget they ever mentioned liking games ever. They forgot they had a 500$ gaming system at home, this was just no longer an existing activity for us to do together 🙄

d1gb1gg3r · 2021-11-27T22:54:08+00:00

I love this! Personally I’m a bit of a trash talker (within a reasonable margin) but these rules are fantastic

_RustInPiece_ · 2021-11-27T04:37:31+00:00

Nice! I really like that one!

Title	Very telling vetting strategy
Author	Cinnabunty
Upvotes	436
Comments	18
Date	November 26, 2021 3:15 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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