Which non-physical, non-material traits do you consider HV/attractive?

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2020-08-03T20:24:55+00:00

Honesty loyalty caring consideration honor

tiredaligator19 · 2020-08-04T00:02:41+00:00

This can't be stated enough but...

EMPATHY!!!!

If a guy is unempathetic don't date him

thepastamancer · 2020-08-03T20:28:43+00:00

Integrity, work ethic, honesty, self awareness, compassion and curiosity.

powerline2500 · 2020-08-03T20:46:48+00:00

Likes to eat, works out regularly, strong opinions/values, likes to travel, ambivert, likes my dogs, a forever learner, has productive hobbies, can control/regulate emotional responses

blair2006 · 2020-08-03T23:04:06+00:00

Loves cats
isn’t afraid to be silly
texts me throughout the day, I joke that my love language is me sending 17 memes and tiktoks to my friends everyday. I love sending people little things that I know they would find funny. Little things like that, where they smile when they look at their phone, can bring a bit of happiness to someone’s day
takes on initiative. I don’t want to always be the one planning everything!

hippiepotomus · 2020-08-03T23:16:25+00:00

The ability to give a real, heartfelt apology and make changes accordingly. I’ve never had a guy say “I see where I was wrong, I’m sorry, and it won’t happen again” and then actually have it not happen again.

First long term BF would “apologize” by saying “I’m sorry it hurt you but I’m not sorry I did/said it”. He liked to say he lived his life by “no regrets” and if you apologize for something, it means you regret it and that goes against his “beliefs” Yeah I’m not kidding. Fucking eye roll.

Next bf would say “I really am sorry, but I can’t promise it won’t happen again” well then you’re obviously not that fucking sorry are you?

eveninghope · 2020-08-03T23:10:41+00:00

Appreciation for delayed gratification/minimal elements of instant gratification in his life.

2020-08-03T22:29:05+00:00

Witty, loyal, thoughtful, spontaneous, reflective.

tamarindoseco · 2020-08-03T20:54:47+00:00

Ability to hold a conversation that doesn't revolve around their own persona

Icchy24 · 2020-08-03T21:24:42+00:00

Ambition, taking care of himself health wise and space wise, honesty, empathy, able to have a discussion without raising his voice, ability to give an ACTUAL apology

reina_nova · 2020-08-03T22:18:29+00:00

Strong moral character

ChristianGirl93 · 2020-08-04T00:36:46+00:00

Holding himself and other men accountable 👏 respecting your interests while having his own 🎾 ability to disagree without arguing 🧘🏽‍♀️and can show love for his sisters and cousins without being a straight up mama’s boy 🤹🏻‍♂️

*and trust me, a scrote can use his thirst for knowledge and determination to see their ain’t a man in your big picture and have a growth mentality that he can grow his own pickme bangmaid- only time, respect, and boundaries will tell Queens

Pretend-Valuable · 2020-08-04T09:22:06+00:00

For me personally, Christian faith is a big thing, so a guy who takes that seriously.
As you've already said, sense of humour is a big one, we have to be able to laugh together.
Good time management is also important, someone who doesn't waste time, but has a good balance of work, chill time etc.
The way he treats other people - does he care about his friends and family? Does he care about strangers?

chaoswitchery · 2020-08-04T14:01:51+00:00

• Empowered masculinity.

I mean a man that isn’t emasculated by the idea of therapy, because I’m not about to be a therapist.

A man that doesn’t think his ego will shatter if he grooms himself, and I mean nails and hair and skin. Think I’m going to let a man with crusty lips and dirt under his fingernails touch me?

Someone who doesn’t act all macho as if he is above honest and compassionate communication.

Basically a man whose masculinity doesn’t flinch from anything.

diamond_pie · 2020-08-04T20:28:30+00:00

Generous, thirst for knowledge, romantic/creative, thinks of the bigger picture, unashamed to show his love to you (basically no toxic masculinity), ambitious, takes provide in providing for his family

2020-08-03T22:51:15+00:00

Humor is big for me, and among others mentioned here: active growth.

Bring me a partner who goes to therapy, meditates, is open to new experiences and likes meeting new people and I just 🥰

An open mind and heart is so attractive.

Heyyitslena · 2020-08-04T09:07:57+00:00

Generous, LOYAL (S/O TO MY EX!!!!!!!! for failing miserably at this), Honest, Affectionate, Supportive, Understanding,

Title	Which non-physical, non-material traits do you consider HV/attractive?
Author	enemy0freality
Upvotes	37
Comments	20
Date	August 3, 2020 3:51 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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