There’s only so much enlightenment and truth bombs you can drop, but someone who is far too gone and comfortable in their own oppression will resist and even peg you as evil. I learned my lesson.

After living with verbally abusive relatives and a pick-me mother (whom I love to death but lockdown has shown me a side to her I didn’t see as I’ve put her in such a high pedestal) who literally gaslights me for being “too sensitive” for crying when one of her brothers attack me verbally—- I learned that some pickmes will just destroy your life, even if it’s your own mother. Her dumb, forty something year old JOBLESS brothers (who don’t even bother applying for a fcking job!) don’t contribute financially, or physically to our home aside from being verbally abusive. My mom pays for literally everything in the ancestral house since my grandfather died and all her siblings mooch money off of her. She also washes the dishes, buys snacks for them everyday, organizes the grocery list etc. I call them out for it, and you know what she does? She tells me off for being “negative”, and that I “complain all the time”. I tell her her brothers are never going to be independent if she continues that behavior but she scolds me instead. Jesus... I don’t even know what to say.

She also gets mad at me that I don’t want to talk to or make birthday letters for my father who has been cheating on her for twenty something years now. She calls me ungrateful because I don’t want to establish a relationship with this scrote who tells me that he cheats on my mother simply because “he is a man and is bound to get tempted.”

The good side is I am ABOUT to move out after months of eternal torture since the lockdown in my city is finally lifted after nearly 6 months. When I told her I was gonna move out, she actually had the audacity to look devastated and ask me why.

Another example is a friend of mine who is verbally and physically abused by her current partner. Once when she was pregnant, he slapped her so hard she actually passed the fuck out. She called me evil for trying to convince her to leave the scrote because I’m encouraging her to “break up her family”.

I don’t even know, ladies. It can be so discouraging empowering other women who in return, attack you for simply caring for their well-being...