Your little niece sees you bring your incredible husband at Thanksgiving dinner, and your husband is incredibly doting towards you. Your neighbor's daughter sees you and your husband talk together in the garden, figuring out issues as a team, and have fun together and hyping each other into greatness. Your customer's little toddler sees you hardworking and being positive, and really likes you and wishes she is you when she's older. Your own little daughter (if ever that happens) sees you being treated well and never tolerating any low value beahviour from friends or strangers.

All those little girls see you as a role model, wether you like it or not, wether you intend to or not. They grow up around models, and will emulate them when they grow older.

Your fiance's little brother has seen how much care he has put into researching the perfect ring, the perfect proposal, how he considers you and how he talks about you behind the scenes and how you have high standards and how he's feeling flattered he is up to your standards. The coworker's little cute boy hears you both talk about men and dating, and how you didn't tolerate the shit behaviour from Date #3, and that you need better behaviour than that. The boy next table at the restaurant sees you get up and out, the instant a man says something terribly fucked up or wrong, because you got standards and your time is precious. Your son (if ever, again), sees you solve issues out as a team with hubby, and sees how husband is behaving with the one he loves.

The boys also hear and see everything, and see how the LV men can't gain access to a (enjoyable) HV woman (because you broom them out your life!) and how the HV men CAN actually gain access to an amazing high value woman that is well rounded.

Many of the former-pickmes (including myself) here grew up around media, people that promoted LV behaviour and thus emulated the LV behaviour. It is normal and to be expected. But it doesn't means it is good.

You have to be high value, not only because you love yourself (ABSOLUTELY not wrong! It is good!), But because your behaviour will influence society, and the next generation.

We're already seeing this right now.