38m, 38f. Married 4 years. 2 little kids. I was always alpha when single and beta in relationships. Drink captain

5’9”, 175 Bench 235 Press 185 Squat 315

Diet good, grooming good, clothes good. Work out 4/5 days a week and Jiu Jitsu 2 days.

Been leading 1-2 times per week (outings and such). Always leading in the house.

Went out of state for work for 3 weeks. FaceTime with the wife and kids every night. Wife starts acting weird on day 2 and doesn’t really partake in the FaceTime. Oh well. She starts asking pointed questions like what am I doing at night, and with whom. I welcome the dread and answer but don’t go into detail.

Come home. Spend all day with the kids. I’m in the basement after the kids go to bed and the wife passes by the stairway on her way up to bed and says she thinks her “infection” is back. She had a vaginal infection that she took meds for and got rid of about a month before my trip. Ok, no sex tonight.

Go upstairs and she’s naked in bed and says “are we going to do this?” Ok sex. We start and she immediately begins to move differently (more vigor) then she stops and goes to her go-to dead fish. She’s loose too. After I I’m done she apologizes for not cuming and says she has a lot on her mind. I notice that her pussy smells fishy, and different than the last infection. STFU

Next day is Saturday and I have a fun event planned for the family to go to a farm to pick pumpkins, hayrides, Halloween stuff. She’s been wanting to do something like this for months. I get the kids up and fed in the morning. The house is a wreck so I clean and vacuum. I have one of the kids bring her coffee. She gets up and is upset that I’m cleaning because she thinks that I’m going to call her out on the house being messy. I blow it off and continue to clean the dirt from the flower pot that tipped over.

Tell her I’m headed to the gym and will be back in an hour. On my way out of the gym I text to have the kids ready and we’ll leave by 11am for the farm. She says “I don’t want to go. Just take the kids”. I tell her I want us to go as a family. She says no, just take the kids without her. This is odd because she lives for this stuff.

Get home and she’s almost got the kids ready. As soon as the kids and I are downstairs she hops in the shower. Kids and I are about to leave and she comes down wearing yoga pants and a sexy shirt. She looks way too good to be depressed and cleaning the house. Red flags are popping up all over the place. I grab an old dictation recorder I had and stuck it in a vase by the back door where the living room is.

Come home 2.5 hours later and she’s still working on cleaning the first room (small bedroom). I grab the recorder and head out to Home Depot for painting supplies. I listen to the recorder and it’s a half hour of microwaving and watching tv. Then I hear my dogs start to go crazy at the sliding door in the backyard. Wife says “look guys, someone’s here”. She then goes outside in the backyard for 15 minutes and does god knows what.

Later that night she is supposedly at church but is gone for double the amount of time it would normally take to do that. We go to bed and I initiate. She doesn’t want to and says that she doesn’t like having sex with me anymore. She baits me into a conversation about her feelings and why she’s not attracted to me anymore. I listen and do some comforting but halfway through what I’m saying I realize that this will never end, and it’s only getting worse. I ask her why she didn’t want to come with us to the farm. She says feelings and reasons. I say who came over while we were gone? She says nobody. I say “you didn’t talk to anyone in the backyard while i was out with the kids?” She says no. I have no actual proof of Chad but I caught her in a lie and there’s only one reason to lie in this situation. I didn’t tell her about the recorder but I did give up on the marriage in that very instant. Told her I’m going to see a lawyer Monday. Later that night she comes downstairs while I’m watching football and starts to talk about things. With zero emotions she starts to tell me what a shame it is that I’m going to throw away our marriage (she thinks it’s because she doesn’t cook, clean, or fuck much). She makes no mention of the outside incident the day before that I alluded to. I’m done with this woman but I’m sad for my kids. Really sad for my kids.

Apt with the lawyer this afternoon

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