Competition Amongst Men

Acousmetre78 · 2025-04-24T23:22:37+00:00

Finding the right group of friends who don’t do this helps a lot. It’s been a while but in the past I had groups of male friends who only lifted each other up.

Miserable-Most4949 · 2025-04-24T22:54:06+00:00

Men like to compete with each other more openly.

Women compete with each other too but they're more sneaky about it. For example when it comes to dating, women will call fat women "beautiful" to trick them into not losing weight and therefore eliminating them from the dating market.

Men don't do that. Men just call fat men "fat" right in front of the whole world to eliminate them from the dating market.

I think both lying and putting other down are wrong. If you wanna compete for something, just improve yourself. Work hard, eat well, exercise. None of those things involves lying or putting others down. It's one of the things I wish men could do better. This is why when I advocate for men's rights outside of this sub, I get called incel (by actual incels) right away. It's a way for them to show the world they're above me.

I don't have a good advice for you besides the one you already know which is to stay away from toxic people.

Rare-Discipline3774 · 2025-04-25T00:09:26+00:00

It is not a normal thing for men to compete over women, that is not a common male experience.

That is not a male thing. Neither is competition itself.

Primary_Reply8635 · 2025-04-24T23:00:26+00:00

We as men just need to demand better of each other and ourselves.

Shes the type to pit men against each other to see who really wants to fight for her? Pass. The other boys can have her.

My homies the type to ditch me for some hoe? Then they weren't real homes were they.

Women know valuable men by the standards they keep and the company they hold. Keep to your morals, but also actively make moves casually.

Tireless_AlphaFox · 2025-04-25T00:02:21+00:00

There was once my friend and I liked the same lady(I was in college). I refused to compete, so I told him to go for it and pulled out. Eventually, they did not work out, but I stayed out of it

World-Three · 2025-04-24T23:16:24+00:00

I don't really hunt other men.

Usually it's just me feeling nostalgic about how far some dudes still will go for some attention. Like, the guys who will get up in the big guy's face when a girl is around, or start talking tough when they never did before.

It's silly but if it works it works I guess.

If I were envious, it wasn't because of men. It was because of how easy that man is to pull away from a group of friends by any woman. You know, when a girl talks to one guy in the group and it doesn't take more than a second for him to downplay the current conversation or just run off with them as if we weren't all talking.

Other than that... Not competing with other men. No reason to. If you have to steal someone's attention, it won't be long before they realize they don't belong to you.

SparklyGames · 2025-04-25T04:58:31+00:00

Ngl me and my friend group have never competed over women, once of us dates a one the rest of us would never date her even after the breakup, we also don't tear each other down, where as any women friends I've had have been truly unbearable to be around and would get upset easily and tear you down.

jjj2576 · 2025-04-25T16:52:21+00:00

When someone puts down another Man or uses generalizations, I am going to take whatever they have to say about Masculinity with the fattest grain of salt.

The Divine Masculine is rational— avoid generalizations. Putting others down feels lame and destructive— Men create.

JxSparrow7 · 2025-04-25T16:52:39+00:00

I don't think competition is inherently toxic or bad. It obviously can be, but it also can be one of the greatest things to guys have.

My best friend is also my biggest rival. We've been friends for over a decade now. Live in complete different states yet still keep in touch. Mostly to argue about whatever game we're playing. We paint miniatures and are in a constant competition on who can be the better painter. It has made us grow in the art tenfold over the years. Same thing with any games we play. We're brutal to each other. Never show mercy. I noticed some results when we went to a local tournament years ago. He and I were always on even grounds with how much we competed against each other. We ended up placing 1st and 2nd because there was no competition to us. We just blew up the scene.

And at the same time whenever he's having wife issues or me having husband issues we're usually one of the first if not only people we reach out to to talk about it. When times are dark we do what we can to lift each other. Then later in the day try to brutally take each other down. We just know where to focus our competitive natures.

ControlOk8832 · 2025-04-25T01:00:56+00:00

I don’t think we will be able to unite all men simply because the male loneliness epidemic is gonna drive most of us to fight eachother for crumbs of pussy and on top of this we have male feminists who we’d need to deal with. Until we replace girlfriends/wives with robots we’re prob never gonna be able to unite all men as a monolith. Now to answer your other questions:

There isn’t really any way to manage competition besides simply being better which to some extent is gonna end up being impossible

Competitiveness is gonna be present but can generally be repressed by just getting the chads on your side

I don’t feel threatened by chads but rather I feel more threatened by male feminists since they’re the ones more likely to screw with me

Conflict isn’t in my nature, I’d prefer allying with chads than fighting them

I wouldn’t say I have chad envy but I do envy the average guys who managed to pull someone while I couldn’t even after putting in more effort. I have luck envy, not chad envy

Hefty-Rip-5397 · 2025-05-01T13:51:31+00:00

The only man I'm in competition with is myself. I was born with certain traits and genetic dispositions and trying to compete for gold with someone with Olympian blood is not wise. All I can do is be better today than I was yesterday. As for others and how they act, that's out of my control. I can only control how I act and treat others. So you get respect from me when you give it man, woman, child, gay, straight none of that matters. I don't envy what others have because I simply don't care what others have. Also the more you have, the more you have to lose.

Title	Competition Amongst Men
Author	Pleasant-Worry-4240
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Date	April 24, 2025 10:22 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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