Gentlemen-ism?

So i saw videos recently where qomen make young male kids behave like gentlemen. Women make those young kids carry their bags, stand pun puddle to give them hand .to behave like gentlemen basically. It feels odd that they making young kids to that.. Like imagine young child carrying bags of a fully abled adult woman.. The caption was " Teaching my son that no woman should hv to carry her things in presence of a man " ..like i find this very toxic because he is a man..not a donkey to carry all your weight and there is no harm if a woman carries her own things. Imagine a child standing in puddle to give a fully abled adult woman a hand so she can cross it.othet women found it cute .. That's absurd to me. Also it exposes hypocrisy . .they want men to break free from traditional stereotypes and cook - clean in house, but they also they want a man who carries their bags like a traditional man.and they wanna shift between a modern self capable woman and a traditional woman who wants a man to carry their stuff,pay for them..based on their convenience..but they don't wanna cook like trad woman or pay like a modern woman..how hypocrite...