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May 21, 2018

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Title	If only.
Author	PM_ME_UR_PC_SPECS
Upvotes	1968
Comments	71
Date	May 21, 2018 11:31 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/8l5ate/if_only/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/MensRights/if-only.1177767 https://theredarchive.com/post/1177767

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[–]TonyTGD 278 points279 points280 points 8 years ago (44 children) | Copy Link

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[–]sknabcv220 points 8 years ago [recovered] (7 children) | Copy Link

Yeah its still a very real possibility. Even with the same criminal history and the same crime, women are 60% less likely to serve time. Thats a fact. The UK calls it progressive thinking. They don't call it that here in the US but it still happens. But the video is pretty cut and dry. I wasn't yelling at her, I didn't attack her. I didn't even appear to be aggresive in the slightest. She had just sliced her arm open and I didn't want her to kill herself. And she admitted to me herself that she was having a psychotic episode when it happened. But yeah, I don't think its likely, but I wouldn't be surprised if she didn't serve time at all. They never even put her in jail for it and I can't help but think, if I had stabbed her, I wouldn't be able to type this message out right now. There is a massive double standard in the court systems. They're inherently geared towards women in almost every case. Not to say that women don't face different challenges in other areas, but thats one area that radical feminists don't like to admit they have much more power.

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Ill give you some advice here, stop praying and get to work.

my current situation is full custody and child support from my ex

save all communications between the two of you, some of that will turn out to be pure gold.
try to leave a paper trail of your actions, so you can prove that you tried to settle the custody as an adult
write everything down, your interactions, what your kid said, everything, after years of battle things will muddy and you'll be happy you can reread what happend exactly.
think 3 times before talking/texting/mailing everything can and will be used against you but the good part is that this also works both ways (see 1.)
ALWAYS ALWAYS for the love of all that is holy stay calm and respectfull towards the court and even your ex. If you dont then this WILL be used against you. i saw too people in the same situation run their mouth in front of a judge and get demolished.

good luck to all fathers!

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How did he get full custody? That's pretty difficult with family courts being as they are.

My uncle and his wife helped him find a good lawyer plus he had plenty of evidence of her treatment of the kids and himself. We have no idea why he married that broad in the first place because it was known that she was a scumbag from day one. She was at my other cousin's wedding before the divorce and she was asked to leave after she tried to start a fight with a random member of the bride's family because she "thought" she rolled her eyes at her. But they were together for 11-years and had three kids(9, 7 and 6) and they weren't doing well with their mother at all. Hell she already had one kid she lost custody of(father isn't in the picture as he passed away after a car crash) because she abandoned her for two months. She's about 13 now and even she has better sense than her mother, she would often come over and visit her half siblings after her mom took them after my cousin said he was leaving her. She's the one that got the cops involved after seeing the conditions they were living in; barely any food, few changes of clothes and used needles in their mother's dresser and other questionable things. She attacked my cousin with a firepoker on two occasions and the only reason he didn't hit her back is because he's a tall guy(6'5, tattooed and muscular) and his ex is a 5'2 skinny blonde so you know how that scenario would've gone if he had so much as shoved her. The used needles, the two instances of assault, abandoning one kid, the neglect of the other three, her outburst at the police station after her oldest daughter called the cops, her drug use and some other stuff that wasn't officially made public is what cost her custody. Plus she's heading to jail for about a year after some unrelated shit that she did after losing custody. She's a narcissistic manipulative parasite who shouldn't be having kids but at least her kids turned out good. The 7-year old is the one with special needs(he's got a spinal issue the name escapes me at the moment) and he has difficulty walking so he needs crutches and with his dad he's finally getting the care he needs.

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